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TheMidiMitch Thu 18-Apr-19 21:28:42

Just been at a party where my son along with the other boys have been repeatedly told off for fighting (quite rightly so and largely by me). Whilst the girls are busy braiding hair and pretending to make cupcakes, the boys are looking like Lord of the Flies. Not meant to be a goady post but please let me know there's light at the end of this tunnel...anyone...

TheMidiMitch Thu 18-Apr-19 21:29:49

Not saying mums of girls are smug actually just I'm a bit jealous...

rabbitheadlights Thu 18-Apr-19 21:31:26

soon enough the boys will be that dissinterested in eeverything around them that you will think they are sleeping and the girls will start with the bitchy cat fights that hormones bring

Greeborising Thu 18-Apr-19 21:31:56

There definitely is light at the end of the tunnel!
IMO boys are harder when younger, noisy boisterous etc
But when puberty comes along, girls can wring you out!

Andanotherthingg Thu 18-Apr-19 21:32:27

My dd had a shit in the garden yesterday.

Home77 Thu 18-Apr-19 21:32:51

It changes when they hit puberty. Most of the mums of young teens I know are having a hard time and seem envious of us mums of boys just now...

TheMidiMitch Thu 18-Apr-19 21:32:53

Thanks - needed something to make me feel better as feeling like a terrible parent right now.

Shootingstar1115 Thu 18-Apr-19 21:33:12

Girls aren’t always easy either. 😂 I have both and they are both hard work in their own ways.

I think boys are easier when they get older into the teenage years though? Teenage girls are bitchy and always falling out with their friends, probably coming home school with a new drama every day but boys less so I think??

bibbitybobbityyhat Thu 18-Apr-19 21:33:27

What about mums of girls and boys? There's millions of us.

aweedropofsancerre Thu 18-Apr-19 21:33:40

I am a mother of 3 boys and 1 daughter and my boys are so much easier. When my DD got to around 11 it all went pear shaped... girly fall Outs became the norm, she changed her friendship group 3 times and then the period started.... I love my DD but my boys are so straightforward ...

WorraLiberty Thu 18-Apr-19 21:34:19

My dd had a shit in the garden yesterday.

I'm sorry, but that's made my day Andanotherthingg grin grin

Nicknacky Thu 18-Apr-19 21:34:51

Smug? If you are not saying it then why say it?

Cheekyfeckery Thu 18-Apr-19 21:35:10

I have boys and girls. It’s all bullshit.

HTH.

LatentPhase Thu 18-Apr-19 21:35:14

When they are teens, you’ll have the last laugh....

BunchOfBalloons Thu 18-Apr-19 21:35:59

I get where you’re coming from. I have two boys and it feels like I spend half my day telling them to stop being so silly or rude and to quit fighting and arguing. Its exhausting.

Cheekyfeckery Thu 18-Apr-19 21:36:10

My boys are lovely. My girls are lovely.

Just focus on the positives. Everyone wins.

yummumto3girls Thu 18-Apr-19 21:36:29

I have 3 DD’s and must admit to feeling sorry for parents of boys when they were younger whilst mine were happy to sit and colour, read etc fast forward to two of them as teenagers, one is vile!! Your turn to be smug will soon come! Hang in there.

Hollowvictory Thu 18-Apr-19 21:36:33

I wou not want boys tbh. So yes I'm smug.

LL83 Thu 18-Apr-19 21:37:31

My boisterous 3 year old boy is a delight compared to argumenative independent, 9 year old daughter!

RogueV Thu 18-Apr-19 21:37:37

My dd had a shit in the garden yesterday.

This made me LOL

TheFastandCurious Thu 18-Apr-19 21:38:16

I have three girls and a boy. My son is by FAR the easiest and I’m a little bit heartbroken I’ll never have another boy (I’m so DONE having kids)

GunpowderGelatine Thu 18-Apr-19 21:39:13

Lol. I know what you mean. I have one of each, my girl is sweet and lovely (mostly) and plays gently, she sort of glides around like Princess Peach. My boy is more like Bowser 🤦🏼‍♀️ bashing into everything and everyone and generally causing a nuisance.

Mari50 Thu 18-Apr-19 21:39:19

I have a dd and I’m definitely not smug, my dd is currently dealing with some really difficult situations at school because the other girls are a lot older, well into puberty and interested in all the things that entails. My dd is still wanting to play games and is being ridiculed and teased on a regular basis for her lack of attention to her appearance (no interest in nails/hair etc)
I think children can be difficult no matter what gender, the challenges are different but they are definitely there and just as tricky to navigate. I’m not smug that I have a dd at all and the next 5 years are terrifying me!!

Veryangryvicuna Thu 18-Apr-19 21:39:48

What cheekyfeckery said x 2

ShesABelter Thu 18-Apr-19 21:41:11

Both my girls have been much harder over the years in comparison to my son.

PumpkinPie2016 Thu 18-Apr-19 21:41:18

I have a boy and yes he can be boisterous/over first etc (he's 5). That said, I teach secondary kids and I have to say, at that are, girls are far worse than boys!

I'd teach in an all boys school without hesitation but all girls? No thanks!

PumpkinPie2016 Thu 18-Apr-19 21:42:02

Over excited

Chocolate35 Thu 18-Apr-19 21:42:23

Boys are so hard when they’re little but I would take that over “can I wear this dress next week?” “No, it’s too slutty” “seriouslllllllllyyyyyy? You’re so prudish”. “Can I stay out till stupid o clock and then you pick me up and drop my friends home?” Teenaged girls are so much work, boys are much easier eventually. Boys are more loving too, in my experience.

englishdictionary Thu 18-Apr-19 21:42:25

My dd had a shit in the garden yesterday.

Literally spat my tea over the iPad 👌🏻

archivearmadillo Thu 18-Apr-19 21:42:59

Bloody hell who swallowed the a-z of lazy child development gender stereotypes.

Little boys and little girls years away from puberty don't innately behave in gender sterotyped ways - you made them like this.

I have both, more boys than girls.

Babuchak Thu 18-Apr-19 21:43:04

I find my boys so much easier! Yes, it's mud, fights, and basically a tornado through the house but they are cuddly, and much more straight forward. I take the fighting and the odd smashed window (what's wrong with using the bloody goal posts we bought FFS hmm ) over the DRAMA and the bloody glitter crap everywhere.

Love all my kids, but god the girls are hard work! They have an easier life, so it all works out in the end I am sure.

Skyejuly Thu 18-Apr-19 21:43:55

I have 3 daughters, 1 son. So far my daughters have been harder
Eldest son is 15
Eldest daughter is 13. She is HARD work

My 7yr old daughter is like a mini wwe fighter. Always wrestling and climbing and shouting!

FaFoutis Thu 18-Apr-19 21:44:07

My boys are 14 and 12 and they are completely lovely. All the time. I also like the fact that they are taller than me (I'm tall) and I made them.
When they were little they never got invited to parties with girls, it's a different story now as the girls are quite keen. Bide your time Midi.

beclev24 Thu 18-Apr-19 21:44:40

urgh, god I'm with you. I never believed any of this, and when DS1 was little he was relatively calm and could focus very very well (better than most girls) so I smugly thought that all the boy vs girl stuff was bs or just condoning bad behaviour. Now I have 3 boys and when they are together they are absolutely wild- incredibly boisterous and physical and often roughhousing or fighting. They do focus and do also enjoy things like art/ reading etc, but their default when they are together is very very wild and physical play or fighting. And no, I don't resign myself to 'boys will be boys' or condone/ allow this behavior. I am constantly constantly disciplining, doling out consequences, giving one on one attention, policing etc etc- . I see my friends with girls whose default is to sit nicely and play in a much less physical way and I am very jealous (and exhausted. And their parents don't have to work for it in the same way at all. It's also true of all male primates- they do engage in more rough and tumble play and aggressive behaviour than female primates so I genuinely believe there is an element of nature rather than nurture to this physicality. They are also very emotional though and we have many many strops/ tantrums/ door slamming/ fallings out etc , so not even sure that the much touted "boys are simple creatures" applies either. I hope it gets easier because I am absolutely exhausted.

notharryssally Thu 18-Apr-19 21:44:47

@Andanotherthingg grin

Babuchak Thu 18-Apr-19 21:45:06

Little boys and little girls years away from puberty don't innately behave in gender sterotyped ways - you made them like this.

it's a total myth, proven completely untrue in many families. There are exceptions to everything, but it's doing no one a favour to pretend boys and girls are identical. They are so not.

Disneymum1993 Thu 18-Apr-19 21:45:20

I have two dds and expecting a boy in september. My girls fight like wwe wrestlers and are constantly into everything although ones girly ones total tomboy climbing trees etc.hoping my boy is a bit less dramatic and not as high maintanence. Love them to bits but sometimes i wonder if its natural for them to fight as much lol

Horses4 Thu 18-Apr-19 21:46:30

My dd9 had a nervous breakdown last year from which she is mostly recovered, and my dd6 punched and kicked her dad yesterday in the opticians because she didn’t want to be there. She was later mollified with a Spider-Man t-shirt. Hair and cupcakes.....not so much. grin

Applesbananaspears Thu 18-Apr-19 21:46:31

Trust me, teen boys are a piece of cake compared to teen girls. It’s worth getting through the wild running around boisterous phase with boys to be free of the teen drama and complicated relationships and attitude of teen girls.

EggplantVestibule Thu 18-Apr-19 21:47:41

I really needed to see this thread today, my two boys (6 & 4) have nigh on broken me today! The constant physical, loud energy! Although I'm sure I'll miss it when they're holed up in their rooms as teens.

paddyclampitt Thu 18-Apr-19 21:49:12

I have one of each. Both lovely. DS was a very lively toddler but he turned out fine!

My teenage DD is NOT bitchy nor is she a drama queen. It is possible.

I hate all this gender crap! I know a lot of people who have 2 or 3 who are the same sex and say they are all very different - it's often just down to the personality of the kid!

Fizzysours Thu 18-Apr-19 21:50:14

Wait til they are all 15. The mums of girls will be broken. 15 year old girls are terrifying and can be truely horrid. For years. I am so jealous of all those mums with their slightly smelly, loveably dopey boys....

archivearmadillo Thu 18-Apr-19 21:51:26

Babuchak families who believe that glitter crap comes out of the womb with a baby with female genitalia somehow bring up toddlers who behave according to gender stereotypes.

Lots of people with both just on this thread are saying it doesn't hold true for them.

Kids have their own individual personalities - boys aren't innately cuddlier or less complicated or muddier, girls aren't innately glittery or into drawing or bitchy. Some might be, but the traits could land in any mix unless parents consciously or unconsciously socialise their children to confirm their expectations.

Tinyteatime Thu 18-Apr-19 21:51:41

Mmmm. I’ve been at a party today where the boys and girls acted identically. They’re 4. I’m yet to see a big difference in behaviour but watching with interest as I have an infant son too.

Bookworm4 Thu 18-Apr-19 21:52:16

I have 3 DD, 1 DS, middle girl makes Lord of the Flies look like bloody choir boys!

@Andanotherthingg
Are our DD lost twins? 😂😂

FaFoutis Thu 18-Apr-19 21:52:16

It was my birthday this week and my daughter (aged 9) decided she wasn't going to speak to me all day. She might sit still and draw pictures (sometimes) but she knows how to upset people and will use it. My boys would not do this.

Springisallaround Thu 18-Apr-19 21:53:19

Girls tend to hit puberty earlier than boys, so they can hit the troubled teen/hormonal issues sooner and the boys look easier at that point. Roll on a few years, and teen boys are also a mass of hormones, can also get depression/mental health issues and my own experience is that they can find finding their place in the world harder (work/studying/partying) whereas the girls are more mature. Certainly by uni, girls do well in terms of grades.

Very general remarks, but I don't agree girls are 'worse' than boys in the teen years, there's more complex things going on.

powershowerforanhour Thu 18-Apr-19 21:53:27

I don't really know...I only have one child, a daughter, who has just turned 3, and one nephew who is less than a year old, so I have nothing to compare with.
I don't think I'm smug just fairly middling.
I have been told since my daughter was a foetus that "boys wreck your house, girls wreck your head" and there seems to be an expectation that boys will fight like apes but ultimately be more straightforward, and that my daughter will likely at some point, due to her double dose of X chromosomes, turn from a normal child into a nasty hysterical manipulative wee bitch, but who knows hmm

MaybeitsMaybelline Thu 18-Apr-19 21:53:43

One of each here. Both have had more than their share of “moments” at different times in their lives. Last major stress was DS, or was the last one DDs major meltdown?

They are in their 20s. It works out 50/50. I’m no smug mum of a daughter. Nor a smug mum of a son.

Livedandlearned Thu 18-Apr-19 21:54:24

I have a 15 yr old dd who is lovely, she was crazy when she was younger,

My sons are lovely too and had a small phase of being not so lovely.

LadyRannaldini Thu 18-Apr-19 21:54:30

I've taught all three combinations, all girls, all boys, and mixed. All boys were a far easier group, this was 11 - 18 age group. They had rows and fights and it was over, in an all girls school the atmosphere was toxic. They were constantly falling out, being over-dramatic, bitching at the female staff, flashing at the male staff. Tell a girl off in Year 7 and she'll remember it on the day she leaves!

MargoLovebutter Thu 18-Apr-19 21:54:34

I have one of each - I’m so smug, I have no wrinkles from the permanent look of smugery!!!! wink

NoSauce Thu 18-Apr-19 21:54:44

I wou not want boys tbh. So yes I'm smug

These type of comments baffle me. You didn’t choose to have a DD, you could have quite easily had a boy. You would have loved him the same as your DD.

Babuchak Thu 18-Apr-19 21:56:14

the traits could land in any mix unless parents consciously or unconsciously socialise their children to confirm their expectations

could, but they don't.
It's not all about glitter you know. Boys and girls are different, there's no need to deny it. Yes, each child has his own personality, it doesn't change the fact that genders have differences. They don't develop at the same rate, don't have the same behaviour, the same strengths and weaknesses. Nothing wrong with being a girl or being a boy.

It's usually (not always, but usually) mothers of girls who deny the differences grin,

fattylawmaker Thu 18-Apr-19 21:56:26

I had a boisterous terror DS and an angelic book reading, jigsaw loving DD...

During their teens DS was a dream and DD was a witch & nearly broke us all!!

They are grown up and both fine now grin

ChariotsofFish Thu 18-Apr-19 21:57:22

Why has no one sent my DD this memo that she should be sitting quietly colouring and braiding hair?! Why is she off climbing scary things and running at high speed and jumping?

SolitudeAtAltitude Thu 18-Apr-19 21:59:07

What age?

Talk to those mums again.when their girls hit their teens wink

For many, the tables turn

A good friend of mine who has girls (I havd boys) actually apologized for her early years smugness when she cried it out over a G&T

Boy teens can be problematic too, but girls' issues seem more complex and worrying and especially hard after the early years of crafts and home baking and pretty dresses. Strictly speaking from my own experience though!

stayathomer Thu 18-Apr-19 21:59:43

I know how you feel OP. I have 4 boys and nearly all of my friends have girls. When we do anything the girls seem a million (billion, trillion) times easier, they either sit playing with something or at least come back when their mothers tell them and I'm the one running in circles and apologising all over the place. And I think boys and girls are probably equally difficult in puberty!

Babuchak Thu 18-Apr-19 21:59:53

I wish I was smug, I have 2 of each and I am too exhausted by it all! grin

What I find most amusing is having play dates, the difference when any of mine, boy or girl, invite boys or girls is amazing. Much easier to host little girls than little boys, but that doesn't last.

M3lon Thu 18-Apr-19 22:00:38

I wonder how many people who complain about their boys always play fighting let them watch a lot of boys fighting on TV? My Dnephew constantly watches pokemon, nijago, X-men etc. and guess what? He play fights all the time...

I wonder how many people who complain about their girls being manipulative and obsessed with social hierarchies and appearance let them watch endless friendship drama shit on TV? DD has been watching Just add Magic and has suddenly become obsessed with who is best friends with who in her music class...coincidence? I don't think so.

We DO make our kids like this...if boys watched MLP FIM all day everyday while the girls watched ninjago all day everyday, you'd soon see the behaviours swap.

archivearmadillo Thu 18-Apr-19 22:01:03

Babuchak they're different once puberty hits. Before that it's personality and socialisation, not sex differences.

My boys are as different from one another as they are from my girl. My girl is more similar to one of my boys than the boys to one another, though obviously they're all different.

SpeedyBojangles Thu 18-Apr-19 22:02:33

I have two girls and I'm constantly telling them off for fighting (with each other!)

Chickychoccyegg Thu 18-Apr-19 22:02:40

my 3 dd's can be lovely, they can also be stroppy madams, with endless drama, people often say "girls are a nightmare" and "glad ive got boys", so guess they all have their moments grin

AestheticPerfection Thu 18-Apr-19 22:02:49

I have two girls and I'm anti-smug. One in particular is goddamned awful. I don't like the choice of wording. Be proud of your spirited kids. Better than the bland kind.

FunnysInLaJardin Thu 18-Apr-19 22:03:17

My boys were both hard work as toddlers but now my 13 yo DS1 is lovely, esp when compared to what I hear about 13yo girls.

There had to be a pay back at some point!

Lacypants Thu 18-Apr-19 22:04:01

My DD is 7 and is usually instigating rebellion. Examples include the time she just marched into the middle of some yr 5s boys playing football and made them let her play, the time she started a "battle" of girls v boys at breakfast club, the time she screamed at my dad that gardening isn't a boys job because you don't need a willy to do it....
My DS is 9. He plays rough and tumble, but certainly doesn't assert himself or start arguments half as much as my DD.

Its possible that my rabid feminism is rubbing off on her.

Silversun83 Thu 18-Apr-19 22:04:32

They're currently only toddlers, but my DD is far more disobedient, boisterous and 'spirited' than my DS who is the most chilled out person ever. confused

Isn't it just personality rather than what sex they are?

HateIsNotGood Thu 18-Apr-19 22:05:58

But afaik teenaged girls can be way, way more 'problematic' in ways that have yet to be invented, as many MNers already know from being teenaged girls themselves.

Hold fast OP, and watch that smugness dissipate quite rapidly in a few years.

Then sit back and enjoy, whilst 'sharing' an anecdote or two about how 'ill-behaved' they thought your ds was, and who would have thought how much grief their dear, darling teenaged girls are causing now.

TheFormidableMrsC Thu 18-Apr-19 22:06:02

My daughter was bloody hard work from the moment she could walk. She has given me more stress over the years than I could have imagined. When she was 13 I had DS. Nothing prepared me for him either...however, now they're 21 and 8, I have to say he is far far easier than she ever was at that age. Even with a diagnosis of ASD. It probably helps that it's just him and I now, so we have a really close relationship and there is nobody else vying for my attention. I have no doubt it will change though as he grows and I am dreading puberty (again). I've never felt smug as a parent with either of them...they've both had their challenges!!

archivearmadillo Thu 18-Apr-19 22:06:44

M3lon exactly.

People who think it's innate don't realise how deeply ingrained their prior expectations are and how unconsciously they're socialising their children to behave in gender stereotypical ways. It's a drip, drip of insideous little things from how parents and extended family respond to behaviours to what TV they put in for them, which toy they hand them, where they take them, how they dress them.
Presumably everyone with even a vague passing interest in child development has seen this before, but worth posting anyway:

www.bbc.com/news/av/magazine-40936719/gender-specific-toys-do-you-stereotype-children

stucknoue Thu 18-Apr-19 22:06:45

Teenage girls are trouble, I have 2.

BarbarianMum Thu 18-Apr-19 22:07:08

Ds1 has been gold as gold since day 1. Ds2 not so much. He takes after me.

I'm not so sure you can clearly divide this by sex.

Insertinspirationalquotehere Thu 18-Apr-19 22:10:11

Fuck this "teen girls are awkward bitches" shit. Put certain expectations on them and they may be. Jesus, have we advanced at all?

keepforgettingmyusername Thu 18-Apr-19 22:10:13

I think it's easier for mums of boys because people just say 'oh well boys will be boys' and all bad behaviour is instantly written off.

TooBusyHavingFun Thu 18-Apr-19 22:10:32

I'm a smug mother of a daughter I have to admit (and that's after the teenage years!)

Disappearedtothe80s Thu 18-Apr-19 22:11:49

Honestly, my DD was high maintenance all her life, she was a fairly tame teen by all measures but my god there were some moments. And yy to being so emotional, everything from friendships, vanity to just being stroppy. Everything is very bitchy, they take everything to heart. She's 20 now so I can say I survived!.

Compared to my two DSs, youngest is only 14 so I can't count my chickens just yet but my 17yo DS has honestly been a walk in park, really minor issues I cant honestly think of any major melt down in recent years.

DS1 was quiet, liked to read, just potter around with toys etc. DS2 was quite boisterous when he was younger but so long he got a decent run around everyday he was fine. And yeah there were a few fights with DS1 but it never dragged on, DD's has dramas that have gone on for months.

I love my DD dearly but sometimes I think it would be easier with another boy.

That said, teen boys eat you out of house and home.

GrandTheftWalrus Thu 18-Apr-19 22:12:10

My 2.5 year old DD will happily play with boys and doing "boy things" but then will cuddle her dollies.

So best of both worlds there.

Shiverrrrmetimbers Thu 18-Apr-19 22:12:18

@ladyrannaldini you shouldn’t be a teacher with misogynistic attitudes like that. I went to an all girls school and none of us ‘flashed the male teacher’ or spent the whole time ‘bitching’.

To be frank I feel sorry for all girls and boys with the amount of stereotyping and plain sexism on this thread. No wonder young girls lack confidence and young boys are killing themselves in droves. Let people be individuals not poorly constructed stereotypes

Troels Thu 18-Apr-19 22:13:43

Dd's idea of a horrible party would have been the doing of hair, she'd have been in with the boy getting in trouble. I loved having little boys, they grew up too fast.

recklessgran Thu 18-Apr-19 22:14:38

Yep, 5 girls here and smug as fuck but would be the same if they were all boys.

Adreamaday Thu 18-Apr-19 22:15:03

My 6-year-old dd will sit and colour nicely but suddenly have a tantrum because her pen has run out of ink, or she has coloured over the lines. She has a terrible temper and often overreacts. Her younger brother is silly and boisterous but he is much easier going.

SmiledWithTheRisingSun Thu 18-Apr-19 22:15:46

I love my boisterous boys!
They are also super loving and cuddly grin

archivearmadillo Thu 18-Apr-19 22:15:52

Insertinspirationalquotehere exactly.

I expected better of Mumsnet, thought I'd accidentally openned Netmums...

Shiverrrrmetimbers Thu 18-Apr-19 22:16:26

My DD is 7 and is usually instigating rebellion. Examples include the time she just marched into the middle of some yr 5s boys playing football and made them let her play, the time she started a "battle" of girls v boys at breakfast club, the time she screamed at my dad that gardening isn't a boys job because you don't need a willy to do it....My DS is 9. He plays rough and tumble, but certainly doesn't assert himself or start arguments half as much as my DD

How depressing. Have you stopped to think WHY your daughter does these things but your son doesn’t have to have arguments about being included/ being capable? Perhaps something to do with his sex and prevailing attitudes. It’s not ‘rabid feminism’ ffs

reallyanotherone Thu 18-Apr-19 22:17:12

Oh for fuck sake.

Quit with the gender stereotyping.

I have two teen girls and they’re fucking amazing. But I have never expected them to be difficult, bitchy, or a nightmare and guess what, they aren’t. They’re just people who have normal people ups and downs.

According to my mum I was a moody hormonal nightmare teen. When in fact that’s what she expected so it’s all she saw. If i dared complain or go against her i was hormonal. If i was tired or a bit quiet i was moody. If i wanted to talk through a difficult friendship i was bitchy and endless dramas.

If you expect girls or boys to behave a certain way that’s what you see. Teen boy in bed- lazy. Teen girl in bed, no doubt in a mood or on the phone to friends.

It’s been shown to start in utero. A kicking boy= footballer. A kicking girl = bitch who’s giving her mum grief already.

Just stop it.

SoyDora Thu 18-Apr-19 22:17:17

What about those who have both sexes? Am I destined to a horrific toddlerdom of fighting boys followed by a horrific teenagedom of bitchy girls?
FWIW my oldest two are girls and are about as different from each other as it’s possible for two human beings to be. If they were boy and girl everyone would say their differences were down to their sex I imagine.

archivearmadillo Thu 18-Apr-19 22:18:11

ladyrannaldini can't seriously be a teacher, one hopes...

I'm a barrister/social worker/ midwife/ neurosurgeon/ child psychologist myself obviously... We're all what we say we are on anonymous forums...

Babuchak Thu 18-Apr-19 22:19:36

I wonder how many people who complain about their boys always play fighting let them watch a lot of boys fighting on TV?

we only have 1 tv, so all mine watch exactly the same programs... I get what you are trying to say, but in many families the kids are treated the same. Nothing wrong with differences between boys and girls, they really are obvious.

not everybody starts life in pink or blue nursery, dressed in a fluffly dress or a set of joggers.

Ilikeviognier Thu 18-Apr-19 22:21:28

Very interesting thread. I have 2 boys- age 4 and almost 3 and they spend every second of every single day fighting and killing each other. I’m knackered and can barely have a wee due to the constant supervision.

I ve also observed my friends with girls as the girls sit and colour or whatever and felt very envious as I’m rolling on the floor trying to control my boys!

I ve been hoping there was some kind of trade off later on!😁

Pimmsypimms Thu 18-Apr-19 22:21:31

Their time will come op, wait until the girls hit puberty, the bitch-fest will begin!!!
I have a dd and a ds and I'd rather have boisterous boys than the bitchy girls!!

Hermagsjesty Thu 18-Apr-19 22:22:29

Genuinely shocked by the amount of stereotyping and sexism on this thread, in 2019. I have boys and girls and I don’t recognise any of the lazy gender stereotypes on this thread - they have different personalities, on some days or in some situations one’s behaviour might be more challenging than another’s -and in a different set of circumstances it might be a different way around - but I really don’t think it’s got anything to do with what genitals they have.

Cheekyfeckery Thu 18-Apr-19 22:22:51

My girls aren’t bitchy and my boys aren’t boisterous.

Smug McSmug of Smugsville here.

Cheekyfeckery Thu 18-Apr-19 22:23:35

And ALL of mine are lazy.

reallyanotherone Thu 18-Apr-19 22:24:01

Nothing wrong with differences between boys and girls, they really are obvious

If they are that fucking obvious why has my 15 year old been mistaken for a boy all her life? People like you so convinced boys behave a certain way that when they see a girl behaving a certain way they must be a boy.

I feel sorry for kids these days. So boxed in to stereotypes no wonder some are feeling like they don’t fit.

archivearmadillo Thu 18-Apr-19 22:24:27

Pimmsypimms are you a woman? Do you see yourself as a bitch? Is your partner a man? If so is he boisterous?

Wtf is wrong with 3/4 of the posters on this thread? Is it 1st April?

SkintAsASkintThing Thu 18-Apr-19 22:25:18

Pahahahahaha wait till they're teens. It all goes tits up.

Nicknacky Thu 18-Apr-19 22:26:21

This thread is really depressing. Children aren’t thought of as individuals. Just placed into boxes.

3in4years Thu 18-Apr-19 22:26:37

I have a boy and 2 girls. The boy is easy, sweet, chatty, calm. The girls are emotional, boisterous, physical and much less cuddly. They are amazing, but such hard work.

Livedandlearned Thu 18-Apr-19 22:26:35

It doesn't all go tits up when they are teens.

It might have for you but not for everyone.

SoyDora Thu 18-Apr-19 22:27:55

Pimmsypimms are you a woman? Do you see yourself as a bitch?

I was going to ask this. I wasn’t a bitchy teen. I’m not a bitchy adult. Some of the girls I went to school with were bitchy, most weren’t.

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