Hi MN’s!
I’ve nc! So in a nutshell.. I’ve got two DC (sons) 8yrs and 10yrs. DH is 13 years older than me. (I’m mid thirties he’s late 40s)
He works in financial sales and I’m a small business owner (pet care/boarding).
We have a home in a lovely place on the outskirts of London. BUT we are struggling to live!
My DH has unfortunately been out of work/made redundant SO many times! We’ve been together 13 years and it seems every 2/3 years he is out of work.
A couple of years ago he had to ‘leave’ instead of being pushed and was out of work nearly a whole year! This has put us in such a bad financial situation.
We now pay the mortgage and the bills but we have hardly anything to live on. The mortgage and outgoings are huge.
Credit cards maxed out. I’m in touch with debt companies etc only so much can be done!
Life is a hamster wheel and borrowing from Peter to pay Paul etc..
AIBU to sell up and move to Spain? We attended Spanish lessons (myself, DH, DC) but stopped a couple of years ago! So we are no way fluent!
I have no money nor does DH but we have money in our home. After selling our home we could have enough to buy a three bed apartment in Southern Spain (ideally Calahonda area).
DH is saying he’ll have to stay here and rent a room outskirts of London to work his job in the city etc.
I could get rid of my debts and this misarable life but I will also have burnt all bridges to ever be able to come back.
My youngest is 8 and a young sweet 8. He’d be happy and make friends anywhere. But my eldest is 10 going on Kevin the Teenager! I’d have to put them through Spanish state school (also thinking of doing Cambridge p/t home school modules) if he hated it then he’ll hate me!!
Pros - I’d have the debts and financial burdens weighing me down gone. I’d be living in a sunny climate.
I am qualified in beauty industry, massage, animal pet training care..
Cons- what if it all goes wrong?
I’ve wanted to move to Southern Spain since 2013. I love it there. I fully appreciate living there is different to a holiday.
Only other option is to sell this house and rent there for a year (?)
Are kids that are about to turn 9 and 11 too old to be put in a Spanish state school?
I cannot go on like this 😑 too over drawn too broke. Don’t know how I’ll afford food for this week!
The thought of selling up and being able to buy a spacious penthouse in Spain has never been so tempting.
Ps. I have experience in beauty, make up, massage in case you wondered what I’d do over there. Also a very experienced animal carer.
- also Brexit is a factor but as it stands I know I can still go there ...
Please give me some advice (shake some sense into me!) thank you! X