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To not give neighbor internet password?

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NegansDollFace · 29/01/2018 21:21

I’ve lived at my current address for 3 years, 4 in November 2018. The house next door is split into two flats, one upstairs and one down. So I’ve never been particularly close to my next door neighbors. We exchange (limited) pleasantries if we see each other and they’ve taken in a parcel for me once and I for them a few times. They work night times and there’s a bit of a language barrier so we legitimately don’t have any relationship beyond polite.

Tonight when I was at our local supermarket when I saw neighbor from the upstairs flat, I smiled an acknowledged him but moved to go to the self checkout. He followed and began a conversation asking how I was, fine, fine but when I ask him how he is he tells me not so good. He goes onto explain that downstairs neighbors have moved out and took their internet with them. I can already see where this is going so he asked if he could have my WiFi password and that he was willing to pay for it. I was put on the spot so I told him I’d speak to him when I’m home.

I’m home now and really am hoping the fact that I haven’t gotten back to him will speak for itself. What would you all say/do? I have incredibly bad social anxiety and I’m very awkward in these situations. Am I BU to just tell him no? And feel like he’s being cheeky? Surely if he shared internet with the flat below they’d have told him they were moving so he’d have time to get a different provider? Also if he’s willing to pay to use mine wouldn’t it just be easier to get his own installed?

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ScreamingValenta · 29/01/2018 21:23

If you feel awkward, could you say you're on a low-usage, metered tariff so this wouldn't be possible?

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LagunaBubbles · 29/01/2018 21:23

Why would you even consider giving a neighbour your wi-fi code? He could be accessing anything!

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StoorieHoose · 29/01/2018 21:23

Tell him you take internet security very seriously and you will not be giving him access to your wifi

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pigshavecurlytails · 29/01/2018 21:23

No, of course not - if he downloads something dodgy it'll go back to your ISP and you'll have the police on your doorstep. easy answer is that you only get a certain amount of data and you use it all up each month so none to share.,

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StoorieHoose · 29/01/2018 21:23

Or tell him you only use Ethernet cables and you don’t have WiFi

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Queenoftheblitz · 29/01/2018 21:23

He may have bad credit and ubable to find a provider to take him on. You could write the password on paper and put thru his letterbox.

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sleepingdragon · 29/01/2018 21:24

You definitely dont need to share the password. If you feel worried about just saying no you can say you can't share as you have a low data limit and use it up each month yourself.

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NegansDollFace · 29/01/2018 21:24

Screaming, would that work if I have virgin internet? I know that he can ‘see’ my 2G/5G internet so I’m not sure.

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feeona123 · 29/01/2018 21:24

Just tell him you have limited use x

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NegansDollFace · 29/01/2018 21:26

See this is my issue about sharing. I know that if he goes on something bad or dodgy it will go right back to my IP address and back to me. 😪

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AManWalksIntoABarOuch · 29/01/2018 21:26

If you don't want to just say no, tell him you don't have much bandwidth so you're very sorry but you won't be able to let him have the password.
Then make sure it's a very secure password!

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RibenaMonsoon · 29/01/2018 21:26

He should just get his own bloody internet.
You could either...
Tell him to bugger off
Or if you wanted to be more polite..
Tell him you have far too many gadgets as it is connected to your wifi (laptops, smart tvs, google home, mobile phones etc) and it's already slowing the quality down so you'd rather not.

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babyccinoo · 29/01/2018 21:26

I would not trust neighbours with WIFI password.

You will kick yourself if you agree to this.

Think of this as an opportunity to be assertive and practice what you will say to him if he asks.

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Pumpkinpie657 · 29/01/2018 21:26

Oh god, definitely definitely don’t give him the Wi-fi password.

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ThisLittleKitty · 29/01/2018 21:26

Just.say.no surely it can't be that difficult. I don't know anyone IRL who would give a neighbour their internet password.

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WaverleyOwl · 29/01/2018 21:27

Fucks sake no!!!! Your internet, don't share. Are you a charity?

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NapQueen · 29/01/2018 21:27

If you have anxiety then take an easy route to "no" by dropping a note in his door.

"Hi X, sorry I didnt go into detail in the shop about the wifi but its provided through my employer so im unable to have others connect to it. Regards, OP"

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kitkatsky · 29/01/2018 21:27

Tbh when I was having a shit time I asked my upstairs neighbour if I could share their internet in return for half the cost and they were fine with it, but we were close so might have been different

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AJPTaylor · 29/01/2018 21:28

Just say you are not comfortable shari ng it due to security concerns. Your provider states that it is not to be shared between addresses.

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NewBrian · 29/01/2018 21:28

He won’t know what internet you have, just say you run everything from your mobile data and it’s limited.

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ScreamingValenta · 29/01/2018 21:28

I had one with BT until about 18 months ago - it 'looked' the same as normal Wifi but I was charged if I went over the monthly allowance. Absolutely nothing external changed when I went onto an unlimited allowance. I rarely went near the allowance although I was online a lot, because I was mainly web-browsing, using minimal data - so if he sees you online, it won't tell him anything.

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asneakysnickers · 29/01/2018 21:28

Not unreasonable to say a firm 'no' at all! How cheeky to ask. Besides which surely if he was using it for nefarious purposes you could be tarnished by that. I would imagine that it wold stipulate in your contract that you are not permitted to share with another household and I would just ell him that, you would not want to do anything that could be seen as illegal or cheating

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purplemunkey · 29/01/2018 21:28

Seriously? I'd just say no, I don't want to. No explanation needed. Its your wifi that you pay for, why should you have to give any kind of reason or excuse not to share?

He'll have to sort his own wifi out.

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SleepFreeZone · 29/01/2018 21:28

Say you’ve taken advice and the answer is no. You really don’t have to give a reason but my primary one would be security.

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mumgointhroughtorture · 29/01/2018 21:30

Also you could be hacked and your security details compromised . Passwords , bank details , PayPal etc could be accessed if the neighbours are computer savvy.

I would definitely say no !

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