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Flippetydip Fri 01-Dec-17 17:58:52

DD is 6, nearly 7. She's been vegetarian since August and has been absolutely adamant about it, brilliant with what she eats and shows no sign of relenting. I'm all for this and have also pretty much gone veggie. DH and DS have not, therefore there is meat stuff in the fridge.

Fridays are our night when we rush from a to b and back again without time to turn round. I WFH so try and fit that in amidst everything else. This is me preparing my excuse for being such a fuckwit. I did oven chips and what I thought were fish fingers for DD tonight before she went out to Beavers (this is not an AIBU about crap parenting and crap food, it's Friday, we're busy, they eat well the rest of the time!) All good, I had one, thought weird consistency but nothing more of it. Got them out to put in for DS later and realised they were chicken fingers. We have never had these in the freezer before, I can only assume DH bought them as part of a Co-op meal deal or some such thing.

AIBU not to tell DD? I don't think it will do either of us any good.

RedHelenB Fri 01-Dec-17 18:00:14

If she has fish she's not vegetarian anyway so no problem.

Sentimentallentil Fri 01-Dec-17 18:00:23

I wouldn’t tell her, it would just upset her.
You didn’t do it on purpose it’s not like you’re feeding her meat all the time.
I say this as a vegan.

Snap8TheCat Fri 01-Dec-17 18:01:02

Do vegetarians eat fish fingers then? That’s a new one on me.

Don’t tell her.

Santasbigredbobblehat Fri 01-Dec-17 18:01:22

Don’t mention it

CactusJelly00 Fri 01-Dec-17 18:02:13

She's not a vegetarian anyway if she eats fish?
Anyway, no I wouldn't say anything. But I would be much more careful in future. She's eaten it now, what good would saying something do

BadPolicy Fri 01-Dec-17 18:02:21

Telling her doesn't help anyone, so just don't do it.

Caroelle Fri 01-Dec-17 18:03:08

Do not tell her, it can only upset her. In a similar situation son once eat meatballs instead of veggie balls because OH mixed them up. OH told him afterwards when we realised (against my advice) and he was really angry and upset because he felt that he had let himself down.

mummyhaschangedhername Fri 01-Dec-17 18:03:11

So to clarify, your daughter is a pescetarian? As for what to do, I don't think there is any need to tell her., obviously if she asked then you would need to say, but otherwise, it was a mistake and I'm sure it will mean you will be more observant in the future as to avoid it happening again.

MatildaTheCat Fri 01-Dec-17 18:03:53

Don’t tell her. If it makes you feel better I doubt there is a huge amount of chicken in them.

CactusJelly00 Fri 01-Dec-17 18:04:09


Vegetarians don't eat fish.
The misconception that they do is widespread however, but makes life a lot harder for vegetarians... I've been to a few corporate events and weddings where I've gone home hungry because the "vegetarian option" is fish or seafood. It's irritating to have to explain to a chef or other food professionals that actually no fish isn't an acceptable vegetarian meal and I'll have to go without instead...

MikeUniformMike Fri 01-Dec-17 18:04:47

Vegetarians don't eat fish or chicken. Don't tell her unless she asks.

ButchyRestingFace Fri 01-Dec-17 18:05:50

Does your daughter realise that fish are living creatures?

I wouldn’t tell her about the chicken but I would tell her about the fish.

jaseyraex Fri 01-Dec-17 18:06:03

So she's pesceterian rather than vegetarian? Or were the fish fingers a mix up too?

If she's eaten them and not said anything about it, I don't think I would tell her. It'll only upset her and I'm sure you'll be more careful about it in future. It's not like you did it on purpose.

Frederickvonhefferneffer Fri 01-Dec-17 18:07:35

I think you says oops to yourself and forget about it.

EdmundCleverClogs Fri 01-Dec-17 18:08:28

Why is she a ‘vegetarian’ if she eats fish? If she doesn’t like meat except for fish, ok. However if it’s a moral aspect - she doesn’t want to eat living things - why on earth have you been feeding her fish?

Oysterbabe Fri 01-Dec-17 18:09:47

Why on earth would you tell her? There's absolutely no point.

AnneLovesGilbert Fri 01-Dec-17 18:10:03

I wouldn’t tell her. It’s done now.

But, as a real vegetarian who gets pretty riled when people offer me fish, as everyone else has said, please knock that on the head.

LizzieSiddal Fri 01-Dec-17 18:10:29

She’s veggie but eats fish 😂

Don’t tell her about the chicken but do tell her about the fish bring live creatures. You really must say something before someone else does.

If she wants to eat fish that’s fine but tell her she’s a pescatarian.

HSMMaCM Fri 01-Dec-17 18:10:59

I'm a vegetarian. I'd rather not know. Just don't do it again grin

And she's a pescatarian

WorraLiberty Fri 01-Dec-17 18:12:29

There's no point in telling her now it's done

And as others have said, if she eats living creatures anyway, no harm done.

Pengggwn Fri 01-Dec-17 18:13:15

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Hadenoughoftumble Fri 01-Dec-17 18:13:38

As someone who was veggie for a long time and then a pescatarian you might want to explain to her that vegetarians don’t eat fish at all. Pescatarians do.

As a one off I wouldn’t tell her. If she is doing it for ethical reasons, is there a reason she eats fish?

Hercules12 Fri 01-Dec-17 18:14:41

I agree about having gone to places and the only vegetarian option being fish is v annoying.

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