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Not to watch something just because DH thinks its the best thing ever?

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bonbonours Sun 16-Jul-17 23:54:51

AIBU or is DH for getting in a huff with me?

DH is massively into Game of Thrones. I have never watched any of it, it's not my kind of thing at all. There's a battle scene called the battle of the bastards which he has gone on about several times about how it's the best thing he's ever seen on TV and it's like Saving Private Ryan but medieval. I'm in the middle of working this evening and he says, "Come and watch for 10 minutes" because it's this scene he loves. I say, "I'm not interested" and he insists, saying, "It's only 10 minutes" and "But it's like Saving Private Ryan but medieval" I point out that I wasn't that interested in Saving Private Ryan either. I'm just not that bothered about watching people killing each other.

Now he's got all huffy with me because I wouldn't stop working and watch it. If I asked him to watch something I was finding fascinating or lovely e.g. the Three Girls documentary, the film Lion, he absolutely wouldn't watch it with me. So why should I watch his stupid battle scene?

KeepServingTheDrinks Sun 16-Jul-17 23:57:14

I knew this would be GoT from the title.

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it's only dragons and tits. Who cares! But the people who love it, do proper love it. My DH has read all the books as well, and they're proper door-stoppers.

KeepServingTheDrinks Sun 16-Jul-17 23:58:34

Oh, read your post now.

OK, you're a bit U, because if you love your partner, you can give them 10 mins of your energy.
He's a bit U, because he knows you aren't interested, but he's maybe a bit sweet for wanting to hook you in.

Bit first world????

DailyMailReadersAreThick Sun 16-Jul-17 23:59:22

This is the modern day equivalent of people getting out a massive photo album to show you.

YANBU

SaucyJack Mon 17-Jul-17 00:01:30

YABU, and wrong.

BackforGood Mon 17-Jul-17 00:01:54

Of course YANBU. Does he not understand you are working ?

I can understand someone passionate about a hobby wanting to share it with you at a convenient time, but to go on and on about you coming to watch some TV when you are working is just odd and rather child like.

WildKiwi Mon 17-Jul-17 00:02:35

Battle of the bastards is pretty spectacular, but not as good as the dragons (misses the point entirely)

But your DH is being daft. There's plenty of things I like which I watch on my own because my DH has no interest and vice versa. No point getting huffy about it.

0hCrepe Mon 17-Jul-17 00:02:40

Yanbu and he's being dim if he thinks you'll suddenly see the light and appreciate the scene in the wat he does. He needs to get on a fan forum and find something you both like to share with you.

GwenStaceyRocks Mon 17-Jul-17 00:04:41

You say you're 'not that bothered' about watching it but you sound very bothered. If you were indifferent, you'd spare 10 minutes for something your DH loved.
But you're point-scoring in your head about what he would watch for you. That's a much bigger problem for a relationship than differing tv tastes.

PicardsCombOver Mon 17-Jul-17 00:05:50

I like crochet. I think the Suzette stitch is absolutely magnificent and none other is better. My husband knows how much I enjoy crochet and is kind enough to pick up new wools or other bits but wouldn't want to watch me do the sodding stitches. YANBU. grin

rolopolovolo Mon 17-Jul-17 00:08:40

Better to spend the 10 min moaning about him on mumsnet. it's what the strongest marriages are made of.

coldcanary Mon 17-Jul-17 00:08:46

YANBU because it's a bit shit and you're not missing anything. DH is being childish - how does it affect him if you don't like the same programmes as him?
Mine doesn't like Doctor Who or any sci-fi, he accepted long ago that he married a total geek. He doesn't watch it and I would never expect him to.

BackforGood Mon 17-Jul-17 00:09:50

I'm in the middle of working this evening

Have some posters missed this bit ?

If I am working, my dh would understand that is what I'm concentrating on, and, emergencies aside, wouldn't bother me other than to being in a nice cup of tea. Exactly the same as when he is working. Even if I saw something I thought he would enjoy, I would tell him later - when he wasn't working - that X or Y was really good and I thought he'd enjoy it if he wanted to pick it up on Catch up later.

sonlypuppyfat Mon 17-Jul-17 00:11:41

But you are missing out, it's awesome and much better than what you were doing

altiara Mon 17-Jul-17 00:13:53

Next time watch it and talk over it asking who the characters are and what on earths going on and who are the characters again????
YANBU - I don't want to watch battles either

altiara Mon 17-Jul-17 00:15:52

Picards love the name of the crochet stitch!

ijustwannadance Mon 17-Jul-17 00:17:16

My DP watches GOT but I won't because I hate that sort of thing and any graphic violence. He has never sulked because I won't watch it.

I don't sulk when he won't watch DIY SOS or anything containing George Clark.

TheCraicDealer Mon 17-Jul-17 00:17:31

It is great but that's not really the point. My DP does this with Alan Partridge and The Office, usually when I'm trying to sleep or do something else. What he doesn't realise is it just gets my back up and I resist engaging with "his stuff" properly because I just associate it with his nagging. He also does it with food- "just try it, just a little bit, come on I just want you to try it, pleeeease".

It's annoying me just thinking about it, but it's a minor complaint in the grand scheme of things. And I mean he did go to the cinema to see Far From The Madding Crowd and Beauty & The Beast with me, neither of which are his bag.

NoSquirrels Mon 17-Jul-17 00:28:23

Well, trying to get you to engage with GoT at Battle of Five Armies when you've never watched it before and don't have time now is crazy.

Me and DH love GoT. OTOH, I'll sometimes watch Dr Who but usually not. Will mostly tolerate superhero stuff but not fussed desperately. Viewings decisions made on this basis. Both desperate to watch = mutually convenient after all worlk completed. But, DH desperate, me ambivalent = he'll watch.

yourerubberimglue Mon 17-Jul-17 00:29:53

My my mums like this ... you could at least try it ... then he should back off

PyongyangKipperbang Mon 17-Jul-17 00:33:03

This drives me mad. I have known a few people simply will not accept that just because they think something is the best thing since sliced bread, doesnt mean that everyone feels the same way. And yes to the food thing. If I wanted to try your dinner I would have fucking ordered it! People insisting you try their food are nearly as fucking annoying as people pinching your food!

Its the sulking that is the worst bit. He can be as enthusiastic as he wants to be but there is absolutely no need for sulking. I suggest you mention to him just how sexy and hot it doesnt make you to see him acting like a petulant toddler.

notangelinajolie Mon 17-Jul-17 00:33:37

Just go and sit in another room!

PyongyangKipperbang Mon 17-Jul-17 00:36:26

She is working, why the hell should she leave the room because he wont accept a "no" when he hears one?! If anyone should leave the room its the stroppy sulker.

Aquamarine1029 Mon 17-Jul-17 00:37:05

You AND your husband are both unreasonable. Is it really such a HUGE sacrifice to watch a few minutes of something to please one another?

Octavia74 Mon 17-Jul-17 00:40:47

How about you watch it on the condition that he never asks you to watch another scene again? It's never nice to be in an argument and 10 minutes isn't that long?!

Btw I love the programmes you watch! You definitely have better taste IMHO grin

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