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If someone says 'I adore you'

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gladiatorix Mon 13-Feb-17 09:00:25

It really isn't the same as I love you, is it? Or AIBU?

birdladyfromhomealone Mon 13-Feb-17 09:01:22

then I return with "I a window you too"

PurpleDaisies Mon 13-Feb-17 09:02:20

More information needed.

Iwasjustabouttosaythat Mon 13-Feb-17 09:02:34

Nope. It means they're on the way though.

Mottlemoth Mon 13-Feb-17 09:03:59

No it's not.

elQuintoConyo Mon 13-Feb-17 09:05:35

It means you are a fluffy bunny. Or a new pair of party shoes.

CannotEvenDeal Mon 13-Feb-17 09:07:02

I say both to dh and ds interchangeably

pipsqueak25 Mon 13-Feb-17 09:07:55

who said it ? is this a new relationship or one that might be on the way out ? sorry, but do need to ask.

Lostpangolin Mon 13-Feb-17 09:08:49

If I told someone I adored them, I'd mean more than love, if you see what I mean? More all encompassing. I think love , like many superlatives, is an overused and somewhat devalued word.

NC1nightstand Mon 13-Feb-17 09:12:25

Hmm is it one of those people who just cannot bring themselves to say it, because they would then be hitched to your wagon for all eternity/they are too cool for school/just not there yet/frightened that the moment they reciprocate you will trample all over their heart or do you think they are trying to let you know they don't feel the same but think you are bloody amazing all the same or do you think they do in fact love you and that's what they mean by adore you?
Like someone else said more deets needed OP!
But I type very slowly so you have probably already said.
In my book, Love is equality and adoration is putting you on a pedestal.

5moreminutes Mon 13-Feb-17 09:13:27

adoration verges on worship and is different, less unconditional and less equal than love - more along the lines of the adored being on a pedestal I'd say.

That isn't necessarily how the person saying it meant it though - it could just be being used the same way some people say "I love spending time with you" or "I love you to bits" neither of which means as much as "I love you"

notarehearsal Mon 13-Feb-17 09:15:51

Adore is to worship. I usually only use the term with the cutest small children. I don't think it's a totally healthy term to use for adult to adult, quite a lot to live up to

zen1 Mon 13-Feb-17 09:19:46

DH said this to me after a week of dating (didn't know him at all prior to going out) and I remember agonising over what he meant exactly. 17 yrs later we are still together. Agree it means 'on the way to' falling in love.

statetrooperstacey Mon 13-Feb-17 09:31:35

It's trying to say something really nice and impress you with a depth of feeling, but no it's definitely not I love you .
If you told someone you love them and they said I adore you in return then they were avoiding saying i love you back. I have done this.

MrsGuyOfGisbo Mon 13-Feb-17 09:33:40

Means I love someone else/am still pining for someone else.
As a minimum, someone who is mean with words will be a nightmare meanie with time, money, affection, consideration,

gamerchick Mon 13-Feb-17 09:36:35

then I return with "I a window you too


I think adore is pedestal territory. Not a good place to put someone.

Sherlock35 Mon 13-Feb-17 09:39:07

I get told I am adored regularly by someone who very definitely does not love me in a romantic sense. So, it really depends on the individual.

Can you try and enjoy being adored for a bit? How do you feel about the person doing the adoring?

Magzmarsh Mon 13-Feb-17 09:41:25

I love my dh but wouldn't say I adore him, I do however adore my dc, rightly or wrongly they are on a pedestal to me.

ElderDruid Mon 13-Feb-17 09:44:12

Really need some more context.

It's better than I like you if that's any consolation.

AYankinSpanx Mon 13-Feb-17 09:54:00

I'd only use it for my young DC.

To be honest, OP, I'd find it a bit...I don't know...weird, I suppose. Maybe a bit patronising somehow, like someone was patting me on the head for a Really Good Girlfriend.

'I love you' isn't overused or tired. It's perennial and meaningful every time someone says it for the first time to someone else. I don't want someone coming up with a creative way of not saying it!

skerrywind Mon 13-Feb-17 09:54:04

My OH tells me that he adores me, and that he loves me. I don't mind a bit of worship, especially as he often does it with his tongue.

AYankinSpanx Mon 13-Feb-17 09:55:40

for being a Really Good Girlfriend.

Obv, I've replied without an update giving any context, so you'll just have to work with it grin

Auntymildred Mon 13-Feb-17 09:56:05

It's the kind of thing my gay mates say to me when they feel I have been especially wonderful. My OH wouldn't say it. More details needed...

gladiatorix Mon 13-Feb-17 11:27:32

Context. Newish relationship, 8 months maybe. He says it to me quite often, actually. And every time he says it, all I think is that's not love. I don't think he means it in a pedestal kind of way, just more reassurance that he's onside

DontTouchTheMoustache Mon 13-Feb-17 11:29:57

No its not but he might not be ready to say it. I don't say it in a relationship until I am.sure I mean it, you can't make that happen any faster than he is ready. Would you prefer he said it if he didn't mean it?

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