If someone says 'I adore you'

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It really isn't the same as I love you, is it? Or AIBU?

Funny- I thought it was more intense than I love you. I have only ever said it to DH, not previously to any boyfriend.

I adore you is a lovely thing to say. I think it is imbued with all sorts of connotations: that you are sweet and lovely and that he loves being around you. It is full of affection.

Love you and I luffs you and I lurve you etc are so ubiquitous they have taken something from I love you, itself.

Cara that is about the size of it. I don't think he is the type of person who is prone to romantic verbal overtures, so it is reassuring. And he is always doing lovely things for me.

I adore my DH, I absolutely do, but saying 'I adore you' feels weird to me - it just feels a bit overblown, particularly when I'm watching him doing something mundane like ironing DS1's school uniform Those are the times when I really do adore him though, so my opinion is probably null and void here!

I'd take it as a nice thing here, OP, unless there are weird behaviours that means he really IS putting you on some sort of pedestal, because that's a little bit unhealthy. We're all normal, we're all flawed. But you say he isn't 'prone to romantic verbal overtures', so 'adore' is quite a grand term to use. I dunno.

I've no doubt you're adorable though

I think its about context, "I adore you" said seriously and with feeling (horrid phrase) is very different from a hair ruffle and "I adore you, ya know?".
Ex DP used to frequently tell me he adored me, and also that he loved me, and I always took adore as a deeper, more intense version. DH has never said he adores me but frequently says he loves me. Before DH told me he loved me he used to tell me I was " really special" to him. I was a bit but he later said he didn't want me to run a mile if he said he loved me too soon.

I should add ex's mother tongue is not English, and "I adore you" sounds a lot better in other languages!

Sorry different spin here. My DP used to say " I really like you" , "I adore you" when he was too scared to tell me he loved me for the first time. He was sort of sussing me out. May not be the same but....

I think it might be a bit of a test, if he hasn't already said 'I love you'. So he's seeing how you react to adoration and gauging whether or not saying 'I love you' would be well-received or not.

A bit like casually mentioning that you heard there are some swingers in the next village, and waiting to see if your partner responses with "How disgusting!" or "Really? That might be fun." before enthusiastically agreeing with them whatever they say.

Either that or he's using 'adore' to avoid the 'love' issue altogether.

I think 8 months is quite a long time to not have said I love you.

Have you said it to him?

I think it depends on context. I have told my DP I adore him, but it came after the love declaration as I mean it as more than that. If someone has said it first I would suspect it would mean they adore someone like you might adore a puppy?

The 'I love you' thing is such a minefield, isn't it? Especially going by posts on here - bloody hell, what a difference a couple of simple words can make, in terms of emotional translation!

It was what I said to DH in the very early days of our relationship when he's started saying "I love you" and I didn't feel ready to say it back.
But I still say it to him now, as well as telling him I love him, and I say it to the dc, who I constantly tell I love. I think it can mean different things to different people and context is everything.

I have said it in other contexts - such as sarcastically, to which he will respond with sincerity 'me too'. I have never sought out the words for him to say, and he says this 'adore' stuff with no prompting

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I think 8 months is quite a long time to not have said I love you

Really? I think that is a silly reply, frankly!

Are you dating Jamie from made in Chelsea? If you are run.

Husband says "I love you" at least twice daily but "I adore you" only usually in response to something specific.

No one famous!

If someone said, 'I adore you', to me I think it'd make me feel uncomfortable

I tell my DP I adore him and for me it's even deeper than love. I do tell him I love him too, every day, but even though I 'adore' him I have definitely NOT put him on a pedestal!

Thanks everyone for taking the time to reply!

I met a army veteran who spent 22 years in the army and he tells me all the time he adores me and he loves me and yes we are getting married and i met him on Facebook in May of 2017

I tell my husband I adore him all the time. I don't worship him, I accept and acknowledge his faults and flaws as he does mine too, but it's just a way of saying 'I love you' on another level. He is a wonderful human being and sometimes I do just adore him. I suppose to me it's a way of saying how lucky I feel to be married to him.

to adore is to worship so no.

Love is deeper, more meaningful.

Tbh I would distrustful of someone who couldnt say those three words. I married someone who didnt say them because (he said) that the more often you say them, the less they mean.
He would say he adored me, thought I was wonderful, couldnt imagine life without me blah blah but almost never those three words. Didnt even say them on our wedding day.

What he meant was that he didnt love me.

He would deny it to this day, but thats what it comes down to.

To me, I adore you is another level of love, I only say it to my husband (and cats).