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To think DD is not entirely to blame for this?

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luckylucky24 Mon 02-Jan-17 10:19:25

I got up with DD 14 months this morning and whilst sat on my knee she knocked over an almost full cup of coffee left there by DH the day before, (definitely was him as noone else drinks it.) It went over DH's mac which is looking broken. We won't be able to afford to replace it anytime soon.
He is understandably devastated and is blaming the baby. Not himself at all for the two cold cups of coffee left around.
AIBU to say he is partly to blame for leaving full cups around?

cherrycrumblecustard Mon 02-Jan-17 10:20:07

He is unreasonable.

But I don't think you can really blame anyone. One of those things.

Home insurance an option?

KinkyAfro Mon 02-Jan-17 10:20:57

He's fully to blame ffs, can't believe either of you would apportion ANY blame on your 14 month old!

macaronip1e Mon 02-Jan-17 10:21:23

I don't think you can blame a 14mo for knocking something over. You could blame him for leaving the mug there, but I don't really see how blaming helps. It's just an accident - a very annoying accident.

Whosthemummynow Mon 02-Jan-17 10:21:45

I never understand why people have these expensive gadgets and DON'T INSURE THEM!!

It's no one's fault. But I can see why he's upset

KinkyAfro Mon 02-Jan-17 10:22:27

I too see why he's upset but it was his fault, no one elses

luckylucky24 Mon 02-Jan-17 10:22:39

I wouldn't kinky. I would say he is partly to blame but also shit happens, its one of those things. DD is quite destructive by nature and grabs, knocks, and throws most stuff she can get to.

GeillisTheWitch Mon 02-Jan-17 10:23:19

Maybe it will teach him to stop being such a lazy manchild and tidy up after himself. It's not hard to put a mug in the dishwasher.

TheWitTank Mon 02-Jan-17 10:23:25

Baby is 14 months. I actually wouldn't even blame an adult for accidentally knocking over a cup left in a stupid place for days.

KinkyAfro Mon 02-Jan-17 10:23:40

Because she's a baby, he is a grown man who should be able to clear up after himself. If he's blaming the baby he needs to have a strong word with himself

luckylucky24 Mon 02-Jan-17 10:24:09

Apparently it isn't covered for accidental damage.

toptoe Mon 02-Jan-17 10:24:38

The adult who knows a coffee cup can be spilt on the nearby laptop.

Or the baby who has no idea that the coffee can be spilt or what it would do to the laptop or even what a laptop is.

And how does one go about 'blaming a baby'? Is he being unkind to the baby?

SillyMoomin Mon 02-Jan-17 10:24:48

I'd say accident but can be negated next time by putting cups in the sink / dishwasher after you've finished them

And claim on your contents insurance. A mac would be covered- mine is registered as an individual item even, not just under the lump sum of goods, as its expensive

Wibblywobblyfoo Mon 02-Jan-17 10:25:33

Where was the mac and the cup?

On the floor...his fault totally

ineedamoreadultieradult Mon 02-Jan-17 10:25:45

Why are you all deciding who is to blame. In this situation you are all members of the same small family unit. Are you going to sue the baby or your husband for the cost to replace? If not then it doesn't matter.

2017ReasonsToMoan Mon 02-Jan-17 10:25:53

How do you blame a baby? What does that look like? Please describe.

luckylucky24 Mon 02-Jan-17 10:26:27

He isn't being unkind exactly. He is saying it is her fault and barely talking to anyone.

Mouse510 Mon 02-Jan-17 10:26:39

We have friends that leave half drunk cups and glasses lying about and then get upset when their dog or toddler drink them/spill them and break said mug/glass. (I gifted them set of wine and champagne glasses a couple of years ago, only 1 glass remains out of 8 originally!)

They are the adults - don't leave things lying about!

Same applies to your DH. It's his fault for not tidying up after himself.

As pp said can you claim on contents insurance?

TheresABluebirdOnMyShoulder Mon 02-Jan-17 10:26:49

He's blaming the baby? What does he want to do, ground her until she learns her lesson? hmm

It's 100% his own fault. Slobby teenagers leave old drinks lying around everywhere, not responsible grown ups.

DonaldStott Mon 02-Jan-17 10:27:03

What an arse, blaming a baby is pathetic.It's not like she is sat there thinking oh bugger, there goes dads mac. Silly me.

2017ReasonsToMoan Mon 02-Jan-17 10:27:04

He is saying it's her fault.

He is showing he is a dick.

DonaldStott Mon 02-Jan-17 10:27:44

*its NOT like she is sat there

RufusTheSpartacusReindeer Mon 02-Jan-17 10:28:04

I couldnt see what the fuss was about

I read 'mac' as mackintosh

I am old and now sad sad blush

DoublyTroubly Mon 02-Jan-17 10:28:27

To be honest, I would say that he is mostly to blame but you're partly to blame too. Did you not notice that the mug was in reach and move it out of DD way? What if it had been a hot coffee and she had spilled some on herself

AyeAmarok Mon 02-Jan-17 10:28:38

Well I'd agree its mostly his fault for leaving cups around. Which housekeeping, vagina owning, fairy was he expecting to have tidied it up?

And partly yours as she was on your knee.

Not DD's fault at all.

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