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AIBU?

To have complained about someone's audio message playing in the hairdressers?

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Adnerb95 · 09/09/2016 18:46

Went to the hairdressers this pm, a not very common visit, but looking forward to a bit of pampering, an afternoon away from the office.
3 clients - including me - in the salon and, as usual, a bit of chat and the salon playing music, reasonable volume.
Client starts playing an audio message on her phone from her grand-daughter with said gd singing. Actually quite a good voice, but played quite loudly - and of course, the salon music still playing too.
So now I am listening to both musical tracks, hairdryer next to me (other client) buzzing and blowing and people talking.
Sensory overload - but thought that the audio message would just be a snatch - to demonstrate to her stylist how good a voice the gd had, but NO the singing carried on for quite a time - several minutes!!
By now, I am feeling stressed and quite annoyed as I think it is rude to share that kind of thing without checking whether other people want to hear it!
When my stylist takes me to the basin, I say - loud enough for all of us in the hairdressers to hear- "sorry, I can't cope with both Music tracks at the same time!"
To be fair, the phone audio stopped almost immediately but no-one said anything, apart from my stylist who said, semi-jokingly, "don't know which one to listen to?"
Anyway, everyone then carries on but was I being super-sensitive or would others find this annoying and difficult?

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atticusclaw2 · 09/09/2016 18:49

I can see how it might have been annoying but I think you were probably BU. It wasn't that big a deal

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Buzzardbird · 09/09/2016 18:49

I would find it annoying as I don't like noisy places. I never find anything relaxing about the hairdressers.

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wowfudge · 09/09/2016 18:49

I might have commented on the two noises at the time, but I wouldn't be mulling it over later. Some people just don't think and while I would find it a bit annoying, I don't think I'd describe it as sensory overload. Doesn't mean you are unreasonable though.

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Drowzeee · 09/09/2016 18:50

I think you were being super-sensitive (and quite rude tbh), hair salons are generally quite noisy and it was only for a few minutes.

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UmbongoUnchained · 09/09/2016 18:52

I think YABU and I have a sensory disorder so I know how irritating it can be. It was just a proud grand parent sharing her grand daughters singing.

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WonkoTheSane42 · 09/09/2016 18:52

Do you have a condition, for example ASD, that makes sensory overstimulation particularly difficult?

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Katinkka · 09/09/2016 18:52

Id have found it irritating but wouldn't have said anything.

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Ameliablue · 09/09/2016 18:53

Depends how long it was going on for. Over 10 minutes good maybe have a point.

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annie1959 · 09/09/2016 18:54

You were probably BU but I would have done exactly the same. To me it feels the same as claustrophobia - being trapped and walled in by noise.

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ChardonnayKnickertonSmythe · 09/09/2016 18:54

Salons are noisy.
People chatting, music playing, hairdryers running.

You were a bit precious.

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elQuintoConyo · 09/09/2016 18:55

Nope. I wouldn't give two shits.

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MrsHathaway · 09/09/2016 18:56

I would have found it annoying, because I have a hearing disorder. But I would have just stopped listening to anything and tuned out completely so I think your reaction sounds a bit extreme.

I have a new hairdresser who's on her own so the likelihood of competing noises is very long. I hope. Full head next week and I'm looking forward to the peace.

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blueskyinmarch · 09/09/2016 18:56

I would find that neither annoying nor difficult in the hairdressers. When i am there i am so engrossed in my trash mags, gossip with my hairdresser and coffee that i notice nothing else.

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MuttsNutts · 09/09/2016 18:57

I may have found it irritating but to actually say something was quite nasty IMO - she was just a proud grandmother and you were mean to try and make her feel bad.

A salon is a public place which annoying people may also visit. If you can't handle that, get a mobile hairdresser to visit you in your own home or pay to have the salon to yourself.

YABU.

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Laiste · 09/09/2016 18:59

Hmm. I personally wouldn't have said anything but i tend to let stuff go and wish i'd said something later.

So sick of having to listen to everyone else's noise these days though! Weather it's over loud headphones, car music, shouty phone conversations or ... playing your family singing at full volume in the hair dressers when there's already music playing Hmm

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Adnerb95 · 09/09/2016 19:00

I would feel I was imposing something on people if I did the same thing in a public place. It's not popular to "share" music on trains, for example?
I'm not mulling it over now - just curious as to what others would feel and whether they would have said something. I wasn't aggressive at all, just being honest.

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user1473106504 · 09/09/2016 19:02

No that is annoying

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Muddlingthroughtoo · 09/09/2016 19:02

Erm, you were being unreasonable, over sensitive and rude. Do you always get offended over little things like this? maybe you should have a hairdresser come to your house in case next time someone coughs too loud.

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MuttsNutts · 09/09/2016 19:04

But perhaps some people would find other things annoying about you - your grumpy intolerance perhaps?

No-one is perfect.

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CantChoose · 09/09/2016 19:05

I really hate this. I think it's really rude. I never say anything because I'm too wimpy but it makes my skin crawl. YANBU in my opinion.

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LeonardInTheArgosBag · 09/09/2016 19:05

I think it's obnoxious. Same as people playing music on the bus or whatever. Put your headphones in, or wait till you're back home.

I wouldn't have said anything though, just internally rolled my eyes.

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SquedgieBeckenheim · 09/09/2016 19:06

I would have hated that, I have an ear condition that makes it difficult for me to cope with lots of different noises. However, I wouldn't have said anything. I think YABU for commenting. YANBU for being annoyed though.

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CantChoose · 09/09/2016 19:07

I don't think it was mean of you to say anything, you weren't pissing on her parade - it's not like you said 'please turn that racket off, her singing is really shit'!

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 09/09/2016 19:11

Slightly annoying but I would let it go, assuming the other client was feeling proud of her DGD and hoped someone would comment. And I would have made an appropriate comment. It's nice to be nice!

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Adnerb95 · 09/09/2016 19:13

I can understand if people thought I was being over-sensitive or that I should have just let it go. I probably would have let it go myself a few years ago.
But RUDE? When she is the one imposing a quite unpleasant noise (the combination of the salon music and the audio on the phone was very clashing) on others?

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