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To ask for your successful TTC stories when over 30 and TTC No.1 for more than 6 month?

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anxiousabouttc Thu 24-Mar-16 05:06:29

Just that really.

About to hit 32 and have been TTC no.1 for more than 6 months with not one pregnancy symptom or positive test in that time. Nada. I am feeling quite down and negative about our chances for various reasons today and friends and family are falling pregnant all around me.

Just looking for some positive stories to reassure me.

anxiousabouttc Thu 24-Mar-16 05:08:05

6 months rather! (topic typo)

DancingPenguin1 Thu 24-Mar-16 05:52:10

Keep going, 6 months isn't very long really. I'm now 37, we were trying for nearly 2 years until my gorgeous girl came along 2 1/2 years ago. Don't get disheartened these things take time.

Jw35 Thu 24-Mar-16 05:57:57

I had a baby at 35 and pregnant again at 36. It didn't take 6+ months but when I had my first it took 6 months and I was 23! I think it depends on so many factors. How often you try, timing, quality of the sperm, individual fertility etc but 30 isn't old and shouldn't be the reason! If you were 40+ I'd say it might take longer. 6 months isn't a long time ttc! Do you chart ovulation?

sportinguista Thu 24-Mar-16 06:02:14

Keep going, it will happen. I came off the pill when I was 36 and my periods didn't come back until 6 months after that. I was really panicking, thought all sorts - was I going through menopause easy? Was there something wrong? I went to GP for tests and everything. In the end they started again around the 6 month mark, then we were trying for around another 8 before I was pregnant with DS. All brilliant easy pregnancy. Unfortunately I wasn't able to repeat but have a wonderful little boy.

I would say the key to relax and enjoy the getting there partgrin! We just put the fact that we were trying out if our minds and it happened all naturally.

Look forward to hearing you've been successful!

Dovahkiin Thu 24-Mar-16 06:21:45

My DS (32) has just found out she is pregnant after 2 years of trying, and no medical reason for why it took so long. Delighted!

These stats might help:

Good luck!

Pollyputhtekettleon Thu 24-Mar-16 06:34:34

Most people I know took 6mts plus! So you are not even close to the longer than average ttc stage yet.

Good luck!

muddymary Thu 24-Mar-16 06:35:57

I was 32 when we started trying at the beginning of April but it just didn't seem to be happening. Went on a night out in the October and seemed to get really drunk on not much alcohol- 3 days after that got bfp. I'm not sure if increased susceptibility to alcohol is an official symptom btw but I have two friends that have similar stories.
I think anything up to a year is pretty standard really- although not helpful when you're stuck in that shagging/waiting/symptom spotting cycle!

Littlecaf Thu 24-Mar-16 06:37:11

Took us a year. Realised on about month 9 that I ovulated later than I thought. Just took us time to get our eye in, so to speak! Keep going. 6 months is nothing apparently.

Littlecaf Thu 24-Mar-16 06:40:03

muddymary, yep I had that increased sensitivity to alcohol, or rather I just didn't want any. DP would pour me a g&t at dinner and I could only get through half - then I went to a festival and only had three ciders the whole time - did a pg test that week and bingo! As I said, took a year. I was 34.

skiingcat Thu 24-Mar-16 06:41:30

Ttc 9 months then it happened on holiday when we were both more relaxed!!

Needmorechocolate Thu 24-Mar-16 06:46:35

Took us nearly 2 years for DC1, was at the point of convincing DH we needed to see the docs. I got a fertility book (by Zita West I think) and we followed the diet in there. It said the diet would take 3months to reset your hormones etc and exactly 3months later we got pregnant! DCs 2, 3 and 4 were all conceived straight away so it seems once my body knew what it was doing there was no going back :-)

OwlinaTree Thu 24-Mar-16 06:51:48

No 1 started trying age 32. Took 19 months.
No 2 started trying age 35. Took 9 months.
No 3 age 38. Took 2 months!

Good luck, I'm sure it will happen sooner or later.

anxiousabouttc Thu 24-Mar-16 06:54:49

Thanks for all your responses, its so nice to hear some positive stories. We have been following my ovulation by using those sticks that you pee on. I think I'm on a downer because I'm ovulating earlier this month and DH has been working away all week so thats a month "lost" combined with (yet another) friend telling me yesterday that she is pregnant. I feel so bad for feeling upset at her news.

RahRahRahRah Thu 24-Mar-16 06:56:22

I started ttc at 29 and didn't conceive my first born until I was 31. After a year we started having all the tests but there was nothing 'wrong' with either of us. It just took a while. I did buy a Clearblue fertility monitor and found that I was ovulating later in my cycle than I initially thought so that helped. We also followed the "sperm meets egg plan" when I eventually conceived (google it). Honestly though, anything up to a year is considered normal. I know it's hard to be patient though. flowers

Jenijena Thu 24-Mar-16 06:58:15

DC1 - month 11 of trying. (30)

DC2 - two years of trying (34)

No medical investigations in either case.

anxiousabouttc Thu 24-Mar-16 07:02:41

I have that book needmorechocolate I will look into the diet part. I'm already drinking much less than I was but I think DH and I will try and completely cut out alcohol now.

Tfoot75 Thu 24-Mar-16 07:03:04

Took us 18 months to conceive dc1, then only two months with dc2. Nothing wrong clearly, just random chance. It's a cliche but try to relax and not symptom spot!

fiorentina Thu 24-Mar-16 07:39:39

DC 1 six months of trying and DC2 first month. Don't be despondent. We did both cut down on drinking after a few months of trying but to be honest just have fun and make the most of child free time.

Dexterjamesmummy Thu 24-Mar-16 07:47:17

Read about cervical mucus, knowing the best time to try worked for us x

Jw35 Thu 24-Mar-16 07:50:39

anxious dtd near the time of ovulation too. My dd was convinced 5 days before I ovulated! The sperm waits in the tubes for up to a week

scarednoob Thu 24-Mar-16 07:54:49

Quite a few of my friends who had their first at 32-34 took well over a year. (A lot of these then got caught out assuming DC2 would also take a while and ended up with 2 very close in age!!)

You're young and it hasn't been v long physically (although I know emotionally it must feel much longer). My advice would be to try not to get too hung up on ovulation sticks etc - in the week when you know you're ovulating, have sex every other day or so. That WILL do it, hopefully v soon! shamrock

anxiousabouttc Thu 24-Mar-16 11:18:15

Rah I'll look into the sperm meets egg thing - at first reading it might be a bit difficult for us to follow religiously as DH works away so much but it looks like a good template.

With DH working away so much I do find it useful to have the ovulation sticks so I know if I haven't conceived in a particular month its been because he has been away and means I don't spend what would be the 2ww period being hopeful when there is no point. I think with DH's unpredictable pattern working away (and my unpredictable cycle!) is making it doubly hard to be honest.

Thanks again for all your input grin

anxiousabouttc Thu 24-Mar-16 11:22:44

Also 3 very close friends who are the same age as me got pregnant first month of trying, after 2 /3 months of trying and 5 months of trying.

Anyone else who's conception 'stories' I personally know and who are early to mid 30's didn't manage to conceive successfully without treatment or IVF - its just good to hear there are people in that middle bracket of taking longer than you would like but didn't need IVF etc.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Thu 24-Mar-16 11:25:05

31 and trying for 9 months for dc1. It was at the 6 months mark I thought it would never happen. Seems such a long time when you want to get pregnant.

Dc2 was 0 months (not trying)

Dc3 was 3 months.

Good luck on your journey.

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