To ask for your successful TTC stories when over 30 and TTC No.1 for more than 6 month?

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Just that really.

About to hit 32 and have been TTC no.1 for more than 6 months with not one pregnancy symptom or positive test in that time. Nada. I am feeling quite down and negative about our chances for various reasons today and friends and family are falling pregnant all around me.

Just looking for some positive stories to reassure me.

I started trying in the January, DD was conceived in the November, so 11 months ttc. I was 36 when she was born.

and it was pretty much exactly the same with my current pregnancy (i'm 19 weeks now). We were trying for most of last year, baby conceived in November, due in August, a week after DD turns 2. I will be 38.

I was also like you in that DH works away a lot and we had to try to predict when he should try to be around, but it didn't always work out and it can be really frustrating and feel like a month wasted. just try not to let it all become a bit of a chore. nothing is more passion killing than when neither of you really feel like it but you know its the "right" time. make sure the romance is still there, and relax as much as you can!! good luck!

Anxious TTC DD1 age 31/ 4 months trying now 30 weeks with DS - 1st month conceived aged 34.
I looked seriously into best preparing body for TTcing both times so have very specific tips/suggestions that I also give to my friends- which I swear by!
Can I ask-
are your cycles regular i.e.. 28 days?
How much do you DTD around ovulation/through the month? Do you use ovu sticks?

My friend took 10 months to get pregnant at about the same age as you. The reason the NHS won't investigate before 1 year of trying (for under 35s) is that they would do a lot of tests on couples who actually have normal fertility. The only reason to seek help earlier is if you had reason to think their might be a problem eg very irregular periods.

I can imagine it is awful waiting and worrying though. I was anxious before TTC because I seem to know quite a few couples who needed medical help. There are some great supportive threads on the conception board.

Hi, it took us 18 months of pretty much constant shagging to get pregnant with my DS. I was 33 and there was nothing wrong with either of us.

I know it seems like forever to you, but 6 months is no time at all,.

Good luck!

If you are ovulating, then I wouldn't worry, but if you aren't sure, find out for sure. And master the quickie... every other day!

TTC for couple years, had progesterone challenge to try to make periods regular, tried Clomid, nothing happened over another couple years.
Got job where I was working 6 days a week, 12-14 hour days, for 5 months. Lost 2 stone, stopped feeling sick from various medical problems, negative preg test. Went to doc with flu to get signed off after I'd had a week off sick. He decided to do blood tests just in case and said he had to tick the pregnancy test box just to be sure.

Apparently I was 4 months pregnant, age 34.

Two years of ttc'ing after ds was born didn't work, went straight to gyn again, he gave me max dose of Clomid (promised it never led to triplets but 1 in 10 chance of twins), second month got pregnant, age 36.

I was 38 when I started TTC, finally got pregnant (with a baby that stuck!) at 40 and gave birth 3 weeks before my 41st birthday. Six months isn't very long to be TTC IMO...

I was 31 when we started TTC #1... We conceived on month 12 (and were regularly DTD and then some over my fertile period every single month). No known medical reasons (though we'd only just started tests when we conceived). Am now 33 and 34 weeks pregnant.

Took about 10 months to conceive #1 at 37, but that may partly have been DP's issue - he had undiagnosed pernicious anaemia which can cause fertility issues and (perhaps coincidentally) I got pregnant the month after he started his B12 injections. Got pregnant again within a month of trying at 39.

We were trying to conceive for around 11months with out first. I had a laparoscopy and dye flushed through my tubes which showed severe tubal damage but amazingly I conceived the month after this procedure was carried out and had ds1 at age 30. I then conceived 3 more dc's very easily ( last 2 unplanned !) and had my fourth at 38.

I was 39 when we started for no1 - after 12 months we went to the doc who took tons of blood, asked us if we were having sex (so that's what we're doing wrong... ) and told us it takes an average 12 months for a youngster, let alone a geriatric like me.
Anyway, turned out I was pregnant before the blood tests came back. Sadly that one didn't stick, nor the next, and I was 42 when ds arrived.
We started again 6 months later and dd arrived after 3 years.

I feel for you, it is so hard to stay positive when faced with everyone else getting pregnant, and all the platitudes don't really help.

Hang on in there. I used the basal body temp / ovulation sticks system so we didn't miss the best opportunities - bought them cheap in bulk off the internet and it made me feel I was in charge as the months dragged by.

We were TTC for a number of years, spoke to the doc two years before DD was conceived. He said to give it a couple of years ( was 33 at this point). I took those years to loose weight, get healthier and sort out my mental health (I am BP) and review any medication I was on and changed over to a better drug, I also made DH give up smoking and cut back on alcohol). Two years went by no baby went back and he sent DH for a test, before this test you have to "get it on" so to speak. We really didn't need the test results as 9 months later the result was clear. I think working on our health helped and also we started to relax a bit and except we might not have a baby which I also think helped.

I found it hard with everyone else getting pregnant and especially when friends and family talked about sharing their pregnancys, their DC growing up together and how easy it was to conceive. It is hard but keep going, I would recommend seeing your GP to get the ball rolling though in case you do need help down the line. Good Luck x

It took 8 months to conceive DC1 when I was 30/31. I had recently given up work so all my focus was on ttc. At 6 months I decided it was never going to happen so applied for several jobs and as soon as I had secured employment and excited about my new job, I conceived. I'm sure this is because my focus changed and I sub-consciously relaxed about ttc.

In your situation with your DH working away it may take longer than you had hoped but try not to worry at this stage. 6 months is no time although when you are ttc it feels like forever.

I was 32 when started trying for No 1. Took about 18 months to get pregnant. Went to Dr and got referred to fertility consultant after we'd been trying for about 1 year. Had a few of the tests done... then got BFP just before 2nd appointment with consultant! When it happened it was when least expecting it... and ended up 9 weeks pregnant on our wedding day!

Now 36 trying for no. 2 We haven't used contraception since DS1 was born and I'd say been 'trying' for about 1 year, seriously for about 9 months - by which I mean using the tracker apps, the clear blue advanced thing, losing weight, cutting down on alcohol and doing all the tests with fertility consultant again. Waiting for results of those now fingers crossed!

Just remember you've only been trying for 6 months - that's only 6 possible opportunities. It's not much. Everyones cycle is different, so knowing when your most fertile days are is important, but don't get too stressed by it. Just DTD every 2 -3 days is best (according to our fertility consultant). Ideally your DH little fellows should be in peak condition - not to old, but rested enough to make the journey! My DH works away a lot too so I know it's not always possible to do what's 'ideal'.

Keep taking your Folic Acid and make an appointment with your Dr to get the ball rolling with tests just to be on the safe side. Good luck xxx

DC1 took 14 months at 32
I got stressed about it
We had just started investigations and I started taking my temperature every day
On the other hand DC2 and DC3 were conceived incredibly quickly in both cases!!!!!

It's normal to feel a bit weepy when your ovulating, and I used to get so hung up on missing that window of opportunity etc. Coupled with another friend getting pregnant it is completely normal you feel this way. I can only suggest focusing on the positive that you are ovulating you can get pregnant it's just taking you a little long to get there is all. Have you a friend that understands... I have a friend who was great, I remember her coming straight over one day just to be there when I was sobbing my heart out over getting my period and the same day two family members being pregnant, she just got it. If not post on here or message me... You have a whole forum of support here and a lot of people who are or have been in your position.

I was the same age as you and took 10 months to get pregnant. I can remember when I was on month 9, finding out a close family member was accidentally pregnant, and feeling absolutely furious it was her, and not me. It is a horrible feeling, but as you can see from this thread, very common to take a few months, and doesn't mean there is a problem.

It took us 14 months of TTC for DC1 at 38 and another 14 months for DC2 at 41.

Six months is nothing! Nothing at all, don't even start to worry yet!

It took us five years from starting in early 30s. No reason for it whatsoever, nothing wrong with either of us. It just didn't happen. For various reasons, we refused to consider fertility treatment and had just about come to terms with being childless when ta-da, we got lucky. We now have a fantastic little boy. I still can't believe it.

Some couples simply take longer than others. Some simply take a lot longer, but we were unusual. The GP told me that up to 2 years is normal.

Oh you poor thing.... dont stress about it (easier said than done) but 6m isnt that long. With DS tried for 8m got pregnant and then sadly miscarried. Waited for a bit and then tried again and got pregnant again. By the time he was born it had been 2 years from starting to try, to him arriving.

DD was a (lovely) accident when DS was 6 months old.... I find it amazing how I tried for 15m to get DS and then one accident led to DD.

So dont loose heart, keep trying an try not to stress. DS conception happened when I had changed jobs and so had stopped commuting and was more in charge of my day to day, so less stress IMHO.

As others have said 6 months is not a long time but I know it feels like it when you're the one trying! I remember feeling sad when friends of ours who had been trying for a shorter of period time fell pregnant.

In the end it took four years, numerous fertility investigations, a diagnosis of 'unexplained infertility' and two losses before I had my DS at 35.

My DD was conceived the first month of trying at 36! We were in shock as we were expecting it to take as long the second time.

Random question - if you are producing egg white cervical mucus in the middle of your cycle, does that mean that you are definitely ovulating?

Took 18 months to fall pregnant first time ( started trying at 31). That pregnancy ended in misscarriage picked up at 12 week scan.

I then feel pregnant 2 months later had my little boy at 34.

6 months feels like forever and it's hard when you feel surrounded by bumps. But really taking 12-18 months isn't that unsual. If your worried at the 12 month mark go and see your gp.

It took me 3 years, I'm 35 now and ds is 1 month old. Charting my temperature made all the difference as I was ovulating near the end of my cycle rather than the middle

I had Ds at 34. Planned everything methodically, best time and day, best way to do everything, diets etc and read a million books and it all amounted to nowt. Caused ridiculous amounts of stress and upset, totally not worth it.
Gave up 'trying' and just went back to enjoying ourselves, no pressure and got pregnant after a drunken New Years Eve night out about 12weeks later. Unless there is some massive medical reason I really do think stress/anxiety are terrible for ttc - its like your body knows its not a great time. Lift all that crap out of the way and relax again and you never know. I know its hard to not focus on it but try not to get disheartened and just enjoy the process 6months is not long.

I was 31 and it took exactly a year, we are against the clock (because of having to start treatment). I found out I was pg 5 days before we were due to start, so it was a huge happy shock as we'd given up hope.