Advice please

[ActiveC]

my suitor left his partner of 14 years recently. He claims they were not legally married.

I told him i think it too soon for him to be entering into a courtship. He believes otherwise.

I have told that if he is as serious about me as he claims he his, i expect to be introduced to his ExP and children.

AIBU?

[squeakytoy]

yabu

[Witchofthenorth]

[HollyBerryBush]

YABU to expect to be intrduced to his ExP, ever

YABU to expect him to introduce you to his children until he knows you are serious about the relationship.

[Witchofthenorth]

hes just left her and you want to be introduced?? yabu and slightly crazy...

[MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel]

Why would you want to meet his ex? Or even his children this early on? What are you going to say to her?

[Emilythornesbff]

sad

[catgirl1976]

YABU

He does not need to introduce you to his ExP and I wouldn't expect to meet children until the relationship was solid, established and serious

And "suitor" and "courtship"?

[Montybojangles]

Ha ha ha, I'm sure that would be delightful.
Hello exP, mother of my children, this is ActiveC, I'm shagging her now, thought we should all get together for a nice cup of tea.
Grip shop, now.

[Flojobunny]

Suitor? Seriously.

[Flojobunny]

YABU, do you usually demand to meet all your "suitors" (that's going to tickle me all day!) exs?
This can't be for real.

[SkinnybitchWannabe]

Yabu. If I was the ex I'd rip your head off if I was 'introduced' to the woman who ruined my relationship and THERE'S NO WAY you would meet my children.

[hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman]

You can't be serious surely?

[FellNel]

YABU on all sorts of levels.

1. It is way to soon to be introducing you to his kids.
   
   
2. You have no right/need to ever meet his ex wife.
   
   
3. you seem to arrived in the 21st century in a Tardis, transported from medieval India.

[IneedAgoldenNickname]

Please tell me this isn't real?

[AngelWreakinHavoc]

This has made my morning hahaha.

[ActiveC]

Actually, this is a serious thread.

Not every man I meet has suitor potential. This one is the type I may one day exchange vowels with.

As they were not married and in lieu of a nasi decree, how do I know if he isnt after a bit on the side? I have no interest in being any mans mistress.

Ok, ok, I know my choice of words are not part of mordern day lexicon however their meaning is paramount to this situation. The dictionary meaning of the term dating dosent apply in this case. There is no shagging taking place, only church hugs, kiss on the forehead and hand holding.

[StuffezLaBouche]

Exchange vowels!!!

[catgirl1976]

Exchange vowels?

Will you play Countdown with him?

I think the way you know if he is serious is by letting the relationship develop, talking and seeing how things go. Not by demanding to meet his ex and children.

[AngelWreakinHavoc]

exchange vowels!!!!!!

I'm crying here!

[ActiveC]

I most certainly am not a marriage wrecker!

I am in NO way the cause of his situation.

Ive been to his place, which is a rented room. Although he has his clothes and shoes there, id expected to see his stuff you know, like books, cd's and the like. For all I know his partner could have thrown him out, which is plausible and he could be a phandering oppotuinist.