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Hullygully Mon 07-Jan-13 13:28:58

I have been invited to a wedding where the bride has developed what must really be called a phobia about old people. (Long story)

She refuses to have any one over 70 in case there is a "medical emergency" which would spoil her day and in order to avoid an outcry she proposes to organise a coach trip for the old people to see The Lion King as a treat on the same day with a special tea at a Holiday Inn afterwards and a video link to her ceremony.

Her mother is 72 and is allowed to go because she recently passed a stringent medical, but no one else of a similar age is allowed. My mother is 73 and looked after her a lot when she was little and really wants to go. Also, she has seen The Lion King already. I think she should be allowed to go to the wedding as a fit and healthy sort of "extra" mother. AIBU?

Nixea Mon 07-Jan-13 13:32:02

While I think your friend is batshit crazy slightly odd, unfortunately I guess it's her wedding so as rude or inconsiderate as it seems, she's allowed to set the guest list however she wants.

Sounds really unfair for your mum though, sorry.

DozyDuck Mon 07-Jan-13 13:33:39

Wow. Really? I wouldn't go to either of I was your mum.

AngelWreakinHavoc Mon 07-Jan-13 13:33:45

That is the most bizarre thing I think I've ever heard confused

YouOldSlag Mon 07-Jan-13 13:34:30

The bride is bonkers and mad and needs a firm talking to. Most over 70s that i know would feel horribly patronized and excluded. More fool her too, as the over 70s I know are very engaging company. She is off her rocker and will be seriously unpopular if she does this.

Besides which, it's illogical, anyone of any age can have a medical emergency. is he going to exclude diabetics? pregnant women? epileptics? small children who could choke or fall?

The world does not stop if someone is wearing a white dress for a day.

squeakytoy Mon 07-Jan-13 13:36:34

barking mad!

LotsaTuddles Mon 07-Jan-13 13:37:10

That's odd, jeez, if I had the rule that anyone that might have a medical emergency can't come to my wedding there wouldn't be many people there (although as we need to drastically cut back some numbers, I may approach this way of thinking, but only a couple of over 70's coming anyway, so maybe not).

I was thinking of saying no really small children, but as my (unborn as yet) dc will be about 8 months (if my maths is right) I can't really have one rule for one and not the other.

But as people keep saying to me, it's her wedding, she can do as she pleases, she only has to make herself (and he fiance) happy, everyone else can do one grin (the wise words of my soon to be MiL

helpyourself Mon 07-Jan-13 13:38:21

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Kveta Mon 07-Jan-13 13:40:47

I hope she is taking a full medical history from every guest so she can exclude any other risky prospects.

JamesBexleySpeed Mon 07-Jan-13 13:41:55

Woah, help, this isn't going to end well!

LotsaTuddles Mon 07-Jan-13 13:44:20

I believe you, I have seen perfectly normal women turn completely insane and not even slightly like themselves when it comes to getting married grin

Hullygully Mon 07-Jan-13 13:45:24

My mother did offer to have a medical too, but she said if she made an exception for her, she would have to offer everyone the option of a full medical. I pointed out it would be cheaper than The Lion King and a fancy tea, but she can't see it.

ThatArtfulPussy Mon 07-Jan-13 13:49:12

I hate that feeling that there's a joke somewhere that I'm missing.

Sallyingforth Mon 07-Jan-13 13:50:47

If this was true, I wouldn't accept an invitation to go.

Hammy02 Mon 07-Jan-13 13:51:15

Who the hell does she think she is thinking someone would want to watch her wedding via video link?! What is it about weddings that turns some people bonkers? I say this as someone that got married a little over a year ago, didn't have my dress until a week before and couldn't have given a shit.

AudrinaAdare Mon 07-Jan-13 13:54:27

"Also, she has seen The Lion King already"


I don't know why but every time I read that line it's making me laugh.

LotsaTuddles Mon 07-Jan-13 14:03:37

Me too Audrina

Hullygully Mon 07-Jan-13 14:09:25

I can see how difficult it was to choose a musical that would appeal to everyone over 70, but I agree, I think she should have offered a choice, at least two other aunts have seen The Lion King too. She should have offered a choice and then gone with the majority.

Alligatorpie Mon 07-Jan-13 14:13:41

This is the weirdest thing I have ever read. it cannot be true!

TaggieCampbellBlack Mon 07-Jan-13 14:21:54


How can I get invited? I really want to go.

I am under 70.

Kveta Mon 07-Jan-13 14:22:00

my grandmother is over 70, and would not have wanted to see The Lion King fwiw.

TheVermiciousKnid Mon 07-Jan-13 14:26:07

What if there is a mass medical emergency while they're watching the Lion King? Very irresponsible of the bride.

sue52 Mon 07-Jan-13 14:27:45

Just asked my 73 year old DH if he would rather a trip to see the Lion King followed by a nice tea or attend a wedding . I'm afraid his reply was unrepeatable.

PandaOnAPushBike Mon 07-Jan-13 14:29:29

Bonkers. Complete stark, raving, bat-shit bonkers. shock

Hullygully Mon 07-Jan-13 14:31:07

She has arranged for her second cousin, a doctor in his third year of training, to go on the coach and to the theatre and tea with them and has also bought a defibullator thing in case there is heavy traffic.

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