Why am I so pissed off?

[bexxboo]

So this morning when I was trying to take half an hour to myself to practice yoga, my daughter kept hassling me and my ex kept calling me.

Now I'm sat here so fucking pissed off throwing a bit of a strop thinking I do everything for everyone else yet I'm not allowed 30 minutes to myself. I love yoga I do it everyday but I'm constantly interrupted by phone calls or my daughter needing wanting something.

Sometimes she will wait until I've started my practice until she asks for things.

Am I being unreasonable.

How old is she? Can’t you put your phone on silent for half an hour?

I use youtube on my phone to follow a flow, I can't figure out how to silence everything bar YouTube.

Daughter is 4

Put your phone on do not disturb
Not sure there is much else you can expect from a 4 year old.

Your daughter is 4-no surprise she wants her mum. If you want her to settle for half an hour while you do your yoga then you'll need to do something with her first and then leave her to carry on on her own. Either that or get up earlier and do it while she's asleep or do it later when she's in bed.

Set your phone to 'Do Not Disturb'. It's in the pull down menu at the top of the screen on my phone.
If it's only 30mins, I'd set DD up with a few snacks/breakfast and a bit of TV to limit interruptions (although would expect to still get some). Or would she happily join in with less disruption than expecting her to do something else alone? My friend does the latter which works well for her.

It's your choice to answer the phone.

With your daughter, just keep saying, "No, it's yoga time," and keep practicing. Be really abrupt about it. Use the same tone you'd use if she were trying to grab a hot pan or something: "No! I'm practicing yoga". Give her the choice to join in or go away.

Just involve her in the yoga so she gets used to it and will eventually join in quietly next to you

Can you do it when she’s asleep at night?

What other people said about do not disturb.

It sounds like you’re setting yourself up to fail a bit. Be realistic about the best time to do your practise.

I do have it set to do not disturb but it only seems to work when my phone is locked.
If I'm on my phone do not disturb doesn't work?

I normally get up early to do it but as it's a Sunday I stayed in bed an extra hour.

You can change settings so it applies when the phone is unlocked

Agree with pp, try to involve her a bit. Being abrupt & cross seems a bit mean really, she's only 4.
Sometimes you can't get a lie in AND 30 minutes of yoga with dc that age!

I think you need to do your yoga whilst your daughter is asleep or at nursery or whilst someone else is looking after her. Four is too young to expect her not to need you or your attention. Alternatively let her join in with you and do the yoga together.

My DS is like this and he is 8m He is being assessed for SEN though. If I just sit there in silence next to him, he does not want me. If I dare to look busy or entertain myself he immediately starts talking to me about something.

Yabu to think a 4 year old will leave you alone for 30 mins. At this age, I put YouTube yoga videos for children on and let dc join in

Yanbu to feel frustrated, but there's no way my 4 year old would let me do 30 minutes of uninterrupted yoga! Probably better to try and manage your expectations (or do it when she's asleep) as I don't think there's much alternative.

Have you got a smart tv or another device that you can run YouTube through?

She’s 4 OP! You are being nuts.

Either get up early, or give her some time first and something to occupy her and explain you are doing yoga and will talk to her when you are done - if she interrupts - and she’s 4 so she will sometimes - just gently take her back and say you’ll sort it once you are done.

And turn your phone on silent to manage X

She understands that yoga time is mummy time, I do put aside time to practice with her alongside. She also does her own yoga via cosmic kids, and she is also always doing her own version of yoga on the mat 😂

I think it is perhaps bigger than just yesterday, I'm a single mother and time to myself is extremely few and far between. Yoga and reading are my two escapisms, so yes I get frustrated when I can't have that time.

It always seems my phone is going off or someone needs something, something needs doing, cleaning, feeding.

I'm human too.

Something does always need doing. That's life. Do your yoga after bedtime, or when your kid is at school. Your 4 year old is priority.