Just caught DH doing HIIT on my mat!

[littlepeas]

Posting this here as I need to vent and I know you guys will understand (suspect I'd look a bit silly on AIBU!). I recently treated myself to a beautiful new 5mm mat, as I find some floor poses hard on my knees - it's my first new mat for years, as I've always just used the cheap one I bought when I first started. Just came downstairs to find my dh had rolled it out in the kitchen, next to the dog bowls and doing sweaty HIIT on it!! Not only that, he has caught his toe in it on the textured side and left a mark. Feel like my lovely mat has been violated . He doesn't think he's done anything wrong and sarcastically said, 'sorry for using a mat for exercise' when I challenged him. I got it off him and he's now using my old mat. Feel like misusing his surfboard for something or other and see how he likes it.

are you serious?

LTB!

I agree with him! Sorry!

If you're seriously upset about a mat perhaps the yoga isn't quite working?

It's a mat!

I get it OP! I wouldn't want to do yoga on a mat my DH had dripped sweat all over either.

I get it. I rarely treat myself to nice things, but when i do, i look after them and they feel 'special' to me. My dh seems to assume that anything in the house is fair game for him to use and abuse, think using a good set of screwdrivers to open tins of paint, so the ends bend, or a lovely sharp kitchen knife to unscrew a tricky screw, so the point is ruined etc etc. I now hide my 'nice' stuff from him as he can't be trusted to use things with respect. I leave out the old screwdrivers/knives etc for him to abuse.

Doesn't sound like something that is worth starting an argument over. Try and keep things in perspective. Life is short!

I'd be annoyed too.

My mat cost £10. Should it have cost more?

I get why you're upset. I'd be livid if DH put his grotty big feet on a nice new mat. He wouldn't understand why I was upset though so I do believe your husband is genuinely confused as to why you're angry - it's not really rational even though I do understand. I have a similar reaction which I know is illogical if I buy a magazine or newspaper and put it to one side and someone reads it before me!

I'd be annoyed. Put it in the washing machine for now. I would be getting him to buy you a new one.

At our gym, we have to use towels on top of the gym mats so that they don't soak up everyone's sweat and start to stink.
YADNBU

My ex was like this, I totally get.the using.good knives as screwdrivers. Pure laziness especially as the "man drawer" was directly below the cutlery drawer in the kitchen.
But we betide I abused any of his stuff. I used a chisel once to open a tin or varnish.... for him.

Yes, I'm serious. I wouldn't say I was angry, just upset about it. It isn't really because it's new, although that is part of it, it's because it is for yoga and is part of my practice - I assumed most people set themselves up in a zen sort of way to practice, but perhaps not! I'm quite surprised by some of the responses - I'd have expected them on AIBU, but not here.

I thought HIIT in your thread title was a typo for SHIT , you'd have a problem then alright. I now know what HIIT is all about.

As for the mat, I don't blame you. Give him that one and get a new one. Is it washable at all

vita

Setting yourself up in a zen way to practice is the very opposite of allowing yourself to get upset about a mat though? Zen being a branch of Buddhism, which is specifically about non-attachment and overcoming your ego.

Me too vita

Yoga mats are quite personal. I wouldn't like it either op.

Fair enough onalong, but it's pretty clear that I'm (mis)using the word zen here to mean a calm space for yoga. Ultimately yoga is a practice and none of us are perfect at it. Yoga DOES work for me and does help me a lot, I was an anxious wreck before I started practicing yoga and now I am significantly better - but it is a work in practice, the same as it is for every other person who practices yoga. Yes, I care about my mat, possibly I shouldn't, but I do - some people like music, being outside, etc - I like to keep my yoga things specific to yoga and I think that's fair enough. Ultimately, I don't think it's ok to use someone's personal yoga mat, without permission, for a form of exercise so very different in character to yoga.

Anyway, he's gone to work having apologised properly. I'm not one to bear a grudge so it will be ok later. I may give him the mat and get a new one for myself - I'm not sure yet.

I'd be upset too.

I'd feel the same. I even have special yoga pants - all my yoga kit is special and kept to one side, it's part of making yoga a thing Just For Me. Rather than part of the chaos of every day life. Yoga is for getting away from it all.

I totally get it. My yoga mat is my personal space and I wouldn't want anyone else to step foot on it, nevermind sweat all over it - eww - they are not exactly fully washable afterall.

Also I have an expensive mat that comes with a lifetime guarantee. That warranty voids if it's used for hiit or multi-use exercise because both of those things wear out the mat, whilst yoga shouldn't for the mat I have. So it would wear your mat out faster than you just doing yoga on it.

I would also never use a gym mat without something on top because of all the other people's sweat and dirty feet that may have been on it.

Plus I am surprised by some of the posts, since I've seen previous posts about people just stepping on others mats at the end of class and everyone agreed it was disgusting and something needed saying to the person doing it.

Do the ironing on his surf board see how he likes that