pregnant and confused!

[Mortini]

Sorry, wasn't really sure where to post this.....I have just discovered that I'm pregnant with DC2. A big part of me is delighted as we've been TTC for almost a year now, however 2 weeks ago I landed my dream job and I just feel awful. Although I haven't gone out to deceive my new boss (I couldn't have known I was PG at interview) I simply don't know what to do.

I don't officially start until late Aug, but am going in for a meeting next week. I feel that the right thing to do is to tell them sooner rather than later. Should I offer to quit before starting? Has anyone had any experience of this; what are your feelings on the best way to let them know.

Major guilt trip also that I have been boozing like a fish for the last couple of weeks and eating all the wrong things .

Sorry to be rambling, but any support or advice greatly appreciated.

Why would you quit?

Have you had the job offer in writing? I'd wait for that at least, preferably wait til you've signed the contract, before you say anything. You don't have to tell them until 25 weeks.

You won't get SMP as you were pregnant being starting work but you'll probably get maternity allowance.

Don't worry, this happens all the time. Congratulations on both the job and the pregnancy! When do you start the new job?

Hi Missus - yes have accepted the job in writing, but not seen sight of a contract yet, so no idea of mat allowance etc. The quitting idea is probably me thinking of the easy way out - I've been away from work for a couple of years and that's slightly dented my self confidence.

Thanks babysplot I start in late August, so a few more weeks of soaking up the sunshine. I'd decided that I'd see if a good job or baby came first and leave it in the lap of the gods, but now it looks like I'm going to be busy! Anyway I can only be about 5 weeks, so best not to get ahead of myself...

Personally I would wait until after the 12 week scan to tell them, but you could tell them any time now and they can't take back your job offer because of it. People get pregnant, it's just something employers have to deal with.

As for boozing and eating the wrong things - in the first couple of weeks I don't think the embryo even shares your blood supply yet so it won't be affected.

Congratulations on both the baby and the job though

This is the questions i've been most wanting to ask, so thankyou Mortini, I haven't been offered a job yet but am being considered for a number of roles, and really want to leave my current job, and I've just found out i'm PG.

Although i havent been offered a job, i too am feeling deceptive if i accept a role, and then have to tell them.

should i continue searching and attending interviews?

really confused, any help would ease my dilemma.

majorca77 if you quit your current job you will not be entitled to SMP or any enhanced pay that your current company offer and you won't be able to claim from the new company.