advice please peeps

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Im due back to work in October and to go back part time, im living outside london at the moment but my job is in london and i moved out of london once i had my son as his dad was making life difficult, now im due back i cant afford to go back to live there.

I tried getting a transfer to an area near me but no such luck - well none that i could get childcare for. I really love my job and have worked all my life for this position, i adore my baby but want to keep my job BUT i dont know how i could have both without dramatically giving up being a good mum and having a great career.

Having to make that drastic decision - whether to give it up and be a SAHM, i wouldnt mind but i hate the thought of never gettin a career back again.

I dont know if im more bothered about losing my status or whether i cant accept that maybe my time is up in this job!!!

Advice please as im totally stuck - decision is really upsetting and cant find an answer!!

xx

Are you able to go back part time? How long would the commute be and how many days a week would you have to work?

If you don't need to work financially so have the option to stay at home obviously that's great and you're lucky, but it doesn't sound as though you'd be happy doing that anyway really.

Write down the consequences of each choice.

how will you live without the job- what is the alternative (it really isnt clear from your post)

find out exactly where you stand in terms of tax credits/help with rent/ childcare vouchers if you stay in the job.

could you commute- how much would childcare be- would it be enough to live on?

if you give up your job- can you find something where you are living now that you would be happy doing- what about childcare etc.

If you stayed at home would you be a loon in 6 months time?

I also find that it isnt helpful to look at these things in terms of once and only decisions. If you go back to the job you love- you are not deciding to do it for ever- it might only be 3 months and then reconsider.