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Lost my job while on maternity leave

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Bloomie · 12/06/2010 19:12

I lost my job, when DS was three weeks old. My career was my life, and I had made so many sacrifices over the ten years I was involved in the industry.

Now, I can not get back into the industry, long story but it is contracting.

It is all just a major struggle, there is no future in the career I had invested so much in.

We can just about afford for me not to go back to work, but im getting fed up with toddler groups and inane conversations with other mums.

I need to embrace it with open arms, dont i?

Im sure if i had to go back to work i would be complaining too.

I miss not being able to afford to go out for meals, and holidays and worrying about every penny that I spend.

I dont get emails anymore, or texts.

It feels like i dont exist. But did I really exist before, in the world of work.

Friendships that i made during work, havent lasted, they were superficial.

But Mums seem superficial too .Why arent people open and honest when they talk to you. Why talk about the weather and feeding blah blah.

But we should be more imaginative with child rearing.

Children are worth investing in arent they?
I was poor when I was little and it gave me character.

I will have another child to distract me from the boredom!

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BelleDameSansMerci · 12/06/2010 20:52

Or perhaps you could start your own business doing something you enjoy? Make that your new "baby" (bet I'll get flamed for that one).

Bloomie · 13/06/2010 13:49

i need to get myself sorted.

Dont feel i have the time or space to put into a new enterprise yet. Have to do everything while he is sleeping!

Just a few hours working down the local pub will probably do me for now, i will just find it a major adjustment after having a big great successful career!

nice easy work and a bit of pocket money would suit me fine.

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LadyLapsang · 13/06/2010 14:35

I don't think you have to have an all consuming career or nothing. Surely if you have invested in your career for ten years you must have lots of transferable skills even if your own area is contracting. If you a serious about working outside the home why don't you get some careers advice?

thesecondcoming · 13/06/2010 14:54

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Ryma · 13/06/2010 15:03

Sorry to hear about your job, but be strong and look for new one! Good luck!

brennannbooth · 13/06/2010 18:13

How old is your baby now? How long has this been going on for you?

Bloomie · 14/06/2010 13:40

Baby is 14 months. So friends i had made have all gone back to work.

Its a novelty at first isnt it, then it gets very mundane. But at teh same time im enormously priveledged to be able to look after him full time.

I dont like not having any money, but im getting used to it, its like being a student again.

If i went back to work, it would be for me. And that seems a bit selfish. I had the baby, i should look after him.

I wish i could make some better friends, or at least people would be more imaginative in their conversations, and more honest!

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Bloomie · 14/06/2010 13:40

Baby is 14 months. So friends i had made have all gone back to work.

Its a novelty at first isnt it, then it gets very mundane. But at teh same time im enormously priveledged to be able to look after him full time.

I dont like not having any money, but im getting used to it, its like being a student again.

If i went back to work, it would be for me. And that seems a bit selfish. I had the baby, i should look after him.

I wish i could make some better friends, or at least people would be more imaginative in their conversations, and more honest!

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thesecondcoming · 14/06/2010 14:17

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brennannbooth · 14/06/2010 15:41

I think remembering student days is helpful - it's a bit like your final year when you can't go out as much as the money is really really tight and you have proper exams - it's just working out the end point so you know when you will move on is tricky. Will you "graduate" from being a SAHM when your next DC is about a year old maybe (when childcare costs are a bit cheaper)?

Volunteering is a good idea, there are probably a lot more people in your situation locally than you realise.

I met some nice people acting as a Contact The Elderly tea host, for example.

LittlePickleHead · 14/06/2010 20:51

Bloomie - you sounds like me!

Reluctant SAHM, right down to the inane conversations. Finding it hard to feel like I have anything to contribute to conversations when I am out with my 'old' friends.

I'm heading in the right direction, and so can't wait to get back to a proper career. I'm just trying to get things in every day to make the week go quicker. But I'm also struggling adjusting to sticking to a tight budget. Acutally, I'm not doing very well at it at all

No advice, but I understand how you are feeling...

LittlePickleHead · 14/06/2010 20:51

Bloomie - you sounds like me!

Reluctant SAHM, right down to the inane conversations. Finding it hard to feel like I have anything to contribute to conversations when I am out with my 'old' friends.

I'm heading in the right direction, and so can't wait to get back to a proper career. I'm just trying to get things in every day to make the week go quicker. But I'm also struggling adjusting to sticking to a tight budget. Acutally, I'm not doing very well at it at all

No advice, but I understand how you are feeling...

OneLieIn · 14/06/2010 21:00

Bloomie, I was made redundant day one back at work and felt lost for a long time. I took the opportunity to change direction and here I am 7 years later happier and earning more than I would have been had I stayed in my old job.

It felt like the end of the world at the time not the new beginning it turned out to be.

Keep smiling x

MrsVidic · 15/06/2010 06:43

Like SC said it doesn't have to be boring- you can volunteer and use it as a way to get new skills for a new career- i.e. surestart need people and you can take your dc too.

What sextor did you work in?

thesecondcoming · 15/06/2010 14:42

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Bloomie · 20/06/2010 13:49

Thank you for all your replies.

I will look into these suggestions, its much appreciated.

xx

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