Feeling invisible at work :(

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Just wanted to share/rant/get upset on here rather than laying everything on my poor husband as I do every night when I get home...

Basically I am in a team of 4 people, and im currently 14 weeks pregnant.
There is another girl in the team who is about 30 weeks pregnant and since I announced I was, I have felt nothing but silence from the others.

When I mention something pregnant-wise to the other lady, I get one word answers or emails back from her, so I just dont mention it now.

The others in the team have open conversations with her about her pregnancy and children in general, and its like im not even there, let alone another pregnant lady who would like to be joined in with now n then. I literally sit in silence most days.

We had a work experience girl in today, and the rest of the team had aranged to go out to lunch with her - I didnt even know she was coming, let alone get an invite!

I feel resentment from the other lady for also being pregnant, and I feel shut out from the rest of the team.
No one has even asked if 'im ok' since announcing my news, 3 weeks ago...

My boss is also an absolute cow, and im supposed to be her PA!

I try to make conversation about the news, or current affairs of the workplace but feel like im invisible, and dont know why im here at the moment.
Im literally counting the days until my maternity leave but thats not until October and I really really want to leave, but just cant as i'll miss out on so much money...

Does anyone else work in a shit workplace but feel they cannot leave due to money / security / etc?

Having a very down day, and would love to chat to you lovely mumsnetters...

I temp so I can always walk away but I do feel for you- yep been there and done that and been made to feel like total crap by colleagues

Get on Mumsnet and make the contacts now that will see you through your pregnancy and beyond.

Hold you head up and just count the days sweetie. You are probably a nicer person they could ever wish to be

Many congrats on your pregnancy! They don't sound like the sort of people anyone decent would want to be colleagues/friends with. Take no notice of their pettinesss - how sad if she is jealous of your pregnancy.
As pedrothellama said hold your head up high and be secure in the knowledge that you are better than them!

Have they always been like this or do you feel it is since you announced your pregnancy ?

I sympathise. I had very bad nausea through my pregnancy. I was dragging myself into work and only managing half shifts or 3 days out of 5. I was tolerated for a few weeks then the pressure started - "it'll stop soon and you can be back on the night rota", "Can you really not push that 6ft high trolley full of till drawers?" etc.

At 4 months I was signed off, and although I felt guilty I knew it was the only way.

Communication with my boss was official absence hearings and colleagues would ask how I was when I was in for them but only cursorily (is that a word?)

When I had my DS I got a cheap bouquet delivered with a printed card 4 weeks later to say congrats.

Needless to say I'm not relishing returning not least because I've lost all loyalty (I've worked there for 15 years). Nor am I suggesting going off sick
but stress is not good for you and certainly not from people you probably once thought of as friends! Fuck them! Once your on mat leave you won't give them another thought. They're gits.

Congratulations btw.

Thank you ladies ... im glad its not just me...
Rookiemater - yes my boss has always been a cow, the thing is I was put in this job position because of circumstance, not because of choice and I would never ever have chosen to work in this dept, its just that my previous boss left, and my current boss took his job, so I got her instead and then the dept changed to PR. I have tried to get another job but unfortunately the pay is quite good, and i'd have to go into London to get the same wages, which im not prepared to do. And now I have baby on the way...I just have to stick it out until October when I go on Maternity leave.

Im going to try and do as you all suggest - just hold my head up, rise above it, and count the days till I get out of this hell hole.

Doughnutty sorry to hear about your situation before you left work - why can some people be so nasty? I just dont understand it... I have always been nice to colleagues, and tried to get on with everyone equally, but when you get a cheap bouquet and a printed card a month after the birth, that just says it all doesnt it!