Quick query about colleague's bereavement

[bradsmissus]

This may sound odd.

I have recenty (December) been promoted to manage the business I work for. One of my staff lost her Mum last week and the funeral is tomorrow.

Would it be appropriate for me to go? When I first joined 2 years ago we shared an office and I get on really well with her. We are a small business and all quite friendly.

I somehow feel I should go to show support for her but am wondering if it's inappropriate because I never met her Mum and don't know her family.

One or two people from work are going but they have known/worked with her for in excess of 10 years.
I swing from feeling it's the right thing to do to then feeling it is entirely inappropriate?

I wouldn't but I would send flowers or whatever and let her know you're thinking of her

Thanks Rockbird - I think you're right.

I agree. With Rockbird. Maybe give her a voucher to go for a massage if she likes that kind of thing - something to give her some time being kind to herself. Someone did that when my mum died and although it was a while before I used it, it was truly welcome and appreciated.

As rockbird says

If they state family flowers only, are they asking for donations to a charity? Could you make a donation or ask the company if they would make one, via the funeral directors?

Id go out of respect. Put yourself in her shoes..