problems with wife of my boss

[pissedrightoff]

Have been working part time for this company for almost a year and have always had the feeling that my boss' wife is not keen on me.

Recently events have escalated,
She has accused me of smoking in the office (I never have),called my boss whilst he was abroad to inform him that I finished early (I did,but worked an extra hour the previous day,boss was fine with that),Said to one of the other employees that I come into the office wearing mini-skirts and cleavage baring blouses (Nonsense,I wear jeans and long cardis,not worn a mini skirt in years),That I am shite at my job and she should take over my position,She will be spending more time at the office to make sure I am doing the hours I say I am,and various other not very nice things.

I really like my job and contrary to her belief I am good at it, but she is making me miserable/angry.
Should I approach my boss about this and what should I say?

bump!

Are you represented by a union at all?
Is this a private company and does the wife have any say in decisions? How do you find out about the comments she makes? Your boss will be in the difficult position of siding with his wife.Make sure you keep a record of any false accusation for the future.

My boss once came to me and told me his wife had accused him of having an affair with me. (So not true, I wouldn't have touched him with a bargepole)

He asked me to keep right out of her way, to play it really low key, keep my head down. I was quite upset, and felt like a bloody pariah. But I liked my job so I did what I was told and it all blew over. She never liked me of course.

A few years later they got divorced.

I suspect your boss already knows but I think you should talk to him.

No union,private company (small)
She is not part of the business as such (to my knowledge) but shares an office space with us.

The smoking and finishing early was direct from her.

The others have been via colleagues (whom I have known for several years, and do trust)

There have been other bits and pieces of gossip from people I don't know,I have ignored these, but believe my friends.

It's a horrible situation, she clearly wants me to leave but am loathe to give her the satisfaction (childish I know)

mumonthenet,yes I believe he does know as his behavior cools towards me when she is there,wheras he is normally friendly.

I am married with children and am no threat to her.

My friends have no problem with me telling boss what she has said, they will confirm it to him.Just hate confrontation, but can't think of what else to do.

I would make a note of anything that is said so that is doesn't come back to haunt you in the future. You can only remain the professional in all this as she is clearly insecure.Don't give her any ammunition - so long as you are doing your job properly and can evidence her false accusations, you have nothing to worry about. Do you respect your boss enough to express your concerns without personalising the accusations....ie "are you happy with my timekeeping? Are you happy that everyone is adhering to a dress code in the office?"etc

Seems to me they have some kind of problem between them.

I would still mention it to him in a non-confrontational way. Just state that her behaviour is unreasonable and unfair and that you plan to ignore it as far as possible for the moment. If he values you in your job, he will probably be relieved that you appear to be handling it ok.

If his wife is a complete nutter, he may be at a loss as to how to handle the situation.

Thanks for your advice.
I'll make a note of all that's happened and try to be non-confrontational when I approach my boss.
He gets back to the U.K next week so hopefully there will be no further problems between now and then.

What a nasty jealous cow.I'd go in with low cut top just to annoy her