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DH can't decide whether to take new job. What should he do?

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TheHouseofMirth · 16/03/2010 21:03

DH & I are both crap at making timely major decisions but basically he has to let prospective employer know tomorrow.

Last year he was made redundant from a job he'd got stuck in and become unhappy in. It could have been an opportunity to make a move in to something he really wanted to do but because I'd just had a baby and he'd got little redundancy money, instead of holding out for the perfect job, he took one he was offered in a start up company. The job seemed interesting, money was OK and in the current economic climate we didn't know when the next job offer would come so he took it. In time it became clear the job wasn't really what he'd been led to believe, he loathes his boss and DH feels isolated as he works alone from home.

He's been actively looking for a new job for 5 months but with no success. Recently, because he's been so miserable in his current job, he's been applying for jobs which previously might not have been his first choice and today he was offered one.

When he came back from the interview he said it was Sod's Law that he'd be offered the job because he didn't want it that much but now he has been offered it he's talking more positively about it. The major downside is that he is used to working in a smallish team as it gives him more variety (he works in IT) but this is a narrower role within a much bigger department. Also when they called to offer him the job they said he was by far the best candidate, which left me wondering if he is too good for the job? However, he hasn't recently seen any other jobs he could apply for and working with his current boss is still making him miserable.

Is it obvious to an outsider what he should do? And/or what questions should he be asking himself to come to a decision?

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CMOTdibbler · 16/03/2010 21:08

I'd take it - he loathes his current job, this will give him some different experience, and who knows where it will lead ? In a bigger team theres more opportunities.

And, if it really doesn't suit, then he is less miserable in a job while he looks for a great one to come along

DH took a job which he was vastly too experienced for when he was out of work - within a year he had been promoted twice, and has risen up the company very quickly. Taking a non ideal job has been fantastic for him.

elliott · 16/03/2010 21:08

I think if he hates his current job and is feeling positive about this one then worth a shot? If this one is also crap then worry about it then...

dinkystinky · 17/03/2010 08:50

Definitely worth giving the new job a shot - especially if he's so miserable at his current place. And if he doesnt like it, then he can move on again as the economy hopefully improves further. Start ups are always a bugger to work in - roles not defined etc. - so at least with this new position your DH would be able to move to a defined role, which he will doubtless shine in (esp if overqualified) and may lead to further promotion/roles in the new place or at least give him an opportunity to think about what he does really want to do while working in a place he doesnt actively hate.

TheHouseofMirth · 17/03/2010 16:54

Thanks all! He took the job - shorter hours, more money, really lovely people. He spoke to HR & the IT Director today and magically, the role has expanded a bit too. Oh! and 46 days holiday!

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dinkystinky · 17/03/2010 18:56

46 days holiday - for more money and shorter hours

TheHouseofMirth · 17/03/2010 19:14

I know, it's fab! Some hol has to be taken at precsribed times but as that coincides with school hols that's great for us!

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