My husband was off work last March for a hernia operation (he was off one week) then in summer for 6 weeks with depression, he went back but over christmas got ill again this time with liver problems (he went bright yellow and was throwing up for 2 weeks) he was off a total of three weeks. Since he has been back his old manager who had been understanding etc left and a manager from another department took over. I can understand that he has had alot of time off in the last year all of it was with doctors notes but still, i get that its annoying for his work, but since he has been back they are making his life a misery it is obvious they are trying to find a reason to either sack him or get him to quit.
Since christmas he has had his workload tripled, he used to have around 60-100 emails a day but now they are piling more on so he now has nearly three hundred emails a day which all need dealing with. The system they use means that if after 48 hours the emails have not been dealt with they are classed as overdue so he effectivly has 300 jobs to complete in 24-48 hours (he is a website developer for a large organization so they are all things like upload picture, fix errors etc).Its impossible to do that and he has had a "verbal warning" already about having too many overdue jobs.
He has been working going in late on thursdays and fridays (and coming home late - they use fleixtime) for the last year as my daughter goes to reception 4 miles away from my sons nursery (he goes two mornings a week) and we dont have a car so its impossible for me to be in the two places at once, we cant afford to pay for one of them to go in early or finish late so it the only way we could organize it so they could both go) they have now said he cant do that so either i will have to walk all that way (or oat tp get a bus half way and walk the other half because thats as close as a bus will take me! OR we will have to take him out completely.
Last week there were now buses or trains running because of snow, he works around 20 miles away from the house and so he just couldnt get there, he worled his normaly hours from home (as did everyone else) he has now had another warning about this. He is getting unfriendly comments at work from his boss and as a result the depression which had been under control is now starting to creep back. The last thing he needs is to be off sick again as he actually prefers going out to work, he get bored in the house BUT the work he is in is making things even worse. He has tried applying for other jobs BUT because he used up his leave last year when he was first depressed (he though he just needed a holiday) he has no leave left for a few months so cant go to interviews until he gets more leave which is a few months away, I dont know if his mental health will last that long.
To top it all off I am pregnant (I know stupid) and have high blood pressure already so its pretty unlikely that i am going to be able to help if he did lose his job as I cant imagine anyone would be that keen on empolying me - been a SAHM for 5 years and pregnant! not exactly a catch for any employer.
I have asked him if there is anyone in work he can talk to about it BUT he got very upset and I think that at this point trying to make a fuss or sort it out is going to just tip things over the edge and we will be back to him not getting out of bed, crying and thinking life is not worth living.
we have never been in this sort of situation before, he has worked since he left school at 16 but now I dont know how much longer we can go on like this. I know if he quit his job to try and find another one we would not get benefits but is there anything else we can do? He is very reluctant to go to the doctor as he feels he is coping well with life in general (and is if you take the job out of the equation) I dont know but again i am worried about pushing it too much,
sorry this is so long but does anyone have any advice?