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Gone back part-time, weird shifts, co-sleeping baby

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dorisbonkers · 19/01/2010 10:43

Hello all. I have gone back to work 3 days a week after a 15 month absence for my first child (she was born when I was on assignment in Singapore, we moved back to London 8 months ago). My husband is looking after her for the days I work and he will work two long night shifts (TV broadcasting) a week.

I work in news and my shift times vary, from 6am until 11am. They are short, at 8 hours, but have a 45 minute commute either side.

The problem I've found is that my baby sleeps with us and spends much of the night attached to my boob. So when I have to get up really early it's been a bit horrid - her crying and then my husband not being able to settle her or do anything outside with her because it's crack o dawn.

He brings her to my work (SE London to Canary Wharf) each day I work so I can feed her (don't think she actually needs it for feeding purposes but I like to cut down the time I spend away from her) and all in all she's been great.

But I don't know how to manage the early morning upset. Husband has offered to drive me in, which might make her go off to sleep again. But I felt that was more distruptive than keeping her indoors.

ARGH. I knew the transition would be hard and I have ummed and ahhhed so long about going back (I could just, just, just afford to be able not to, but don't want to ditch a hard-to-enter career when I want another kid and to possibly move abroad again). But I didn't realise the nuts and bolts logistics would be so hard.

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butadream · 19/01/2010 20:05

I think your DH's idea is worth a try.

How old is your baby?

If she is 9/10 months old that is classic separation anxiety time, isn't it? So you can expect her to get better at coping with the separation over the next few months.

dorisbonkers · 19/01/2010 20:27

Hi, sorry, she's 15 months and to be honest she's so attached that I've not noticed a time when she was more, or less anxious to be apart.

To be honest even though she was up at 6am today she had a 2 hour nap with DH in the sling, saw me for lunch, he picked me up in the car and she napped and she tucked into a good dinner and is asleep in our bed now so I don't think it did her much harm.

But I dread when I have to get up at 5am.

I just want to tell Dh what to do to help her get back to sleep when I'm not there early in the morning. He can get her to sleep easily in a sling, but only walking about outside, not indoors.

Oh, and she's been fine with DH, she's seen and been out with him so much over the past year as when we got back from Singapore he's only worked 3 night shifts so he's been around lots.

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butadream · 19/01/2010 20:31

I think you should let your DH find out for himself what works as he seems a proactive capable and caring man from your posts. Babies behave differently for different people.

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