Dh reckons he is going to get sacked next week - what the hell does he do for a reference?

[Tortington]

i have posted before about the history. dh's works are guning for him, he has already had a disciplinary wheich he refused to question, he didn't want to put in a grievance becuase he was scared they would sack him on some made up charges.

now he is sick, he really really is - its food poisoning - it really really is. stools ample to doctors this morning, doctor appt yesterday - he is genuinley ill.

despite being ill, he went to work this am and his manager said " you seem to be off an awful lot of mondays and fridays" this is untrue and dh has asked for a sickness record from HR.

this is like no other place - don't advise acas - we have enquired and dh has shit his luck becuase he didn't contest his (trumped up) disciplinary through fears of being sacked.

so. the options i have ran hrough with him today

1. hand in your notice - get a bad reference
2. go in next week - see if you get sacked - if you do - bad reference

its just the shitest shittest situation to be in. He has an interview on friday of this week - but if he gets it ....then what

see options above re reference.

he hates lying - i am telling him to lie through his teeth and he doesn't want to do it.

he has not always been the best DH in the world - but he has always genuinley worked hard, worked long hours and always put the effort in.

i don't know what to advise him i really don't.

there won't be any contesting it, thee wont be any lawyers - dh is broken - they broke him.

gosh tyvm for caring.

he went to mtg tues. HR woman his manager and his managers manager - which was unfair as the big boss (school boy bully twunt) wasn't expected. never the less dh's first priority was stance on references - HR woman assured him only factual - wouldn't mention disciplinary unless asked for - in her experience that has only happened a couple of times.

we did have a diatribe planned - but dh thought not to rock the boat whilst he was ahead - he mentioned the managment of the site the contractors the orders and procedures. he then said the last straw was when he was questioned over being ill ( after driving 89 miles to be in work - wouldn't you just phone in?) produced a sick note the doctor was kind enough to write in time for mtg.

he has company car til end of month - as he is taxed on it. they dont want him back on site becuae he could presumably fuck up ordering and other stuff if he were that kind of person - so have told him to have the month notice at home.

the best outcome he could have hoped for.

thank you

that is good news, especially about the reference, hopefully now he'll be able to find something else without worrying about how this employment will impact on it.

Best of luck with his job search anyway, sounds as though he's well out of there.

thanks flowery. i always respect your opinion - your a superdooper star

ty dahling. look, lets thing of drunken xmas things yay!

dya think anyone will notice if i buy coke and pour vodka into it in the bogs?

Thinking of you. Hope Mr Custy gets job.
We have been through similar, very horrid.

I spent a brief time recruiting, I would expect only to get confirmation of times worked and position held as reference, would only be concerned if this was wildly different to the CV. Once had a reference come back stating dismissal, and actually the candidate did get the job in the end.

thank you wonderstuff - v. heartening.

paracetemol - great idea sally - i'm ded excited now really really really

(have been on vodka)

Glad he got the best possible result Custy. How did his interview go on Friday?

Enjoy drunken Xmas things!

ty for asking. It went well he thought. will let you know