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Circulated indiscreet email - WWYD

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LightShinesInTheDarkness · 04/08/2009 15:25

Simple story - person A sent me an email saying she was unhappy at being left out of a decision-making process. I forwarded to person B with a one-word (not rude) comment. Person B replied to me that person A did not need to be involved, as it was not her remit.
Rather short, curt email.

I've hit 'Reply All'. Sent the rude comment to Person A, Person B and one other. Person B has already seen the email.

I am absolutely mortified at my mistake. And for putting Person A in this awful position.

Anyone been in a similar position?
My stomach is churning so much I feel physically sick.

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Miamla · 04/08/2009 19:42

doesn't a recall send a message to the recipient telling them that LightShinesInTheDarkness wants to recall her email? sorry, i'm a bit out of touch and can't remember

StealthPolarBear · 04/08/2009 20:50

afaik if you do it before they even open it then it's gone. If they've read it, then they get the message and if they click to accept the recall then it goes - which obviously isn't any good in this case!

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LightShinesInTheDarkness · 04/08/2009 22:57

I never thought of getting it deleted off the server until now. I could have organised it easily...

Got to sleep on it now. Till the SH1T hits the fan tomorrow.

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morningpaper · 05/08/2009 10:13

They can probably remove it remotely, you can call IT at any time

I suspect there is part of you that WANTS her to read it .... ?

StealthPolarBear · 05/08/2009 10:33

Well, what's happening?

notwavingjustironing · 05/08/2009 10:57

By LightShinesInTheDarkness on Tue 04-Aug-09 15:43:07
Thanks - have tried recall but unsuccessfully. Have apologised sincerely to Person A (genuine apology - I am sorry )

Both people are in the same team, Person A is the head of the department, Person B is in the same team as her. I report to Person A.

BUT this is a very small organisation and tensions run high in such a small set-up.

I seriously think I may be disciplined, and Person A will have lost all the confidence in me which I have been working hard to build up.

But how can you have apologised to her if she a)supposedly hasn't seen it and is 200 miles away. Won't she think you are crackers?

I can't believe I'm so interested in this!

Miamla · 05/08/2009 19:54

lightshines... how did it go today?

squeaver · 05/08/2009 19:56

Update please!!!

Notwaving, she got her A and B mixed up in that post I think.

allaboutme · 05/08/2009 20:03

so what happened?
hope you didnt accidentally forward this thread to both A and B over night

amidaiwish · 05/08/2009 20:11

i can't believe i read this whole thread and there's no conclusion!!!! come back!

poppy34 · 05/08/2009 20:20

Person b should know better than putting something inappropriate in an email- that is the issue. Fact you forwarded is a consequence of their stupidity not yours

poppy34 · 05/08/2009 20:25

And echo holidayqueens advice- something like this happened at our place(sec forwarded wrong email that included complaint letter from customer re staff member to various staff) - she had to grovel for sending wrong thing but real issue was why confidential email released by her boss in first place.

Oh and all three (boss, sec, offended staff) still there and i had forgotten about this til just now although am sure sec was upset at time.

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LightShinesInTheDarkness · 05/08/2009 20:48

I am back. Not been at work today but have been checking my email every 2 hours remotely and have not heard a thing more from A or B.

Not sure what to make of that - they may just be lying in wait for me till I go in on Friday.

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squeaver · 05/08/2009 21:42

Brazen it out tomorrow. Everyone will have had two nights to sleep on it by then. It'll all be fine, I'm sure.

LoveBeingAMummy · 06/08/2009 08:24

Had a friend who did similar things a couple of times the 'best' one was when her line manager sent an email saying her was moving onto another role, she replied to him saying it was the best thing for him as this place was shit and hed never get where he could and she go tomorrowif she had another job.....she'd hit reply all instead of reply so went to the centre manager and the whole management team!

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LightShinesInTheDarkness · 06/08/2009 10:52

LBAM - you made me feel so much better!!

I am holding my breath - not heard anything this morning and A has answered emails relating to the original problem, and several others.

Not sure what to make of it!

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EyeballsintheSky · 06/08/2009 10:55

Sounds like it's all been a fuss about nothing. Was A in the office yesterday? Maybe A and B had a chat and sorted it? Anyway, I'd say you can breathe again, relax and watch who you send emails to

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LightShinesInTheDarkness · 06/08/2009 12:05

EITS - I hope so, and have certainly learned my lesson!

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Bumperslucious · 06/08/2009 13:55

Marking this thread as I need to know what happens!

IME recalls in outlook never bloody work properly!

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LightShinesInTheDarkness · 06/08/2009 21:16

B phoned me tonight - she has not heard anything from A.

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