requested demotion - am I mad???

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Been back at work six months as a senior manager. Fair amount of HR issues over the past few years with my team which have impacted on me. Feel that the boss has no confidence in me and they have made repeated comments about changing the structure, am I still committed now I'm part-time etc. Anyway, after they ambushed me in a meeting, I was so upset and fed up with dealing with all the HR stuff as well as trying to do my job. Feels like it's yet another big juggle. After thinking about this for a couple of days and speaking to HR, have offered to step down from role and revert back to one of the team.
They haven't responded to this so don't know what is going on.

This will impact on me financially and I guess longer term for my career but honestly, I just want a quiet life. worried about money now though and wondering if I've
made a huge mistake.

Any advice please???!!!

My DH did this, it was the best thing he ever did.
He hated the management role once he was in it, and realised it was not for him. The company were happy and able to accept his request to stand down, as they had not recruited for his original job yet.

He would have made himself ill over the managerial position of he has remained in it.

I would give them til Monday and ask for a meeting to talk about it.

But you do need to think about whether you just need more support and training to be comfortable with the managerial role.

With DH it just cqame down to the fact that he did not want to be managing staff and felt it was not part of his make-up, and never would be, with or without further support.

Thanks - good to know I'm not the only one! Thing is, I thought I was doing fine given the performance issues on my team which they asked me to sort out. It's been so stressful though and awful thinking folks don't like you and our dept is really bitchy. I just want to have an uncomplicated job if that's possible!

Very worried now about the money as it will leave me no leeway at the end of the month. How have you found it?

Have joined the Union and HR suggest that I bargain hard on salary before committing myself.

Sorry, keep hitting enter by mistake. Must be sunstroke.

Six months is not a very long time in the scheme of things, and you have a lot of adjusting to do!

Have you had targets and performance indicators clearly defined, and had appraisals to assess how your return to work has gone? or is it a case of just get on with it? Which isn't really fair

Yeah, i feel like they've not backed me up and given me the help I've needed since being promoted internally. I've put two options to them - either they give me backup and training or I go back to original job but hopefully at enhanced salary.

Anyone negotiated on this and any tips on how to do it?

I would agree that you need to think long and hard about it, don't do it on the spur of the moment.

We managed ok ( I stayed at management level in the same company until I took redundancy 2 years later), but it was a catalyst for change with him, and he has totally changed his career now and works with computers (at least you don't need to discipline the hardrive or softwar for absence from work and poor performance).

It's similar to sales so we each have targets but in terms of management, no. It's all woolly and their criticisms are based on hearsay. I asked them outright for examples but they couldn't give me any. I do feel they're being unfair. Also, had no appraisal in over 2 years.
They made no adjustment to me being back after nearly a year in terms of recognising that I have to leave on time now but aside from that I've done just as much travelling and brought in results. Sighs.
Anyway, I still feel like I'm never going to win this one. Part of me is angry that I should be made to feel like this and they even dare to question my loyalty when I give as much as I ever did.

i did it and it was crap.
THey got a new fantastic blue eyed boy in to do the job i'd vacated.

And he was dire.
it was a real struggle for me.
Clinically he was well below standard and not willing to up his game at all. He was arrogant, complacent and had a chip on his shoulder.

I was much younger then and didn't do so well either.
I'd happily happily welcomed him and thought i was helping him by telling him all the stuff he needed to know.
Gave myself enough rope to hang myself- it was horrible.

I couldn't have carried on as boss- but I should have left outright and got myself anther job.

sorry- but do think very very carefully about who will do the job you have left. if they are alot worse than you how will you cope? It's hard to see somebody else do the stuff you once enjoyed and making a mess of it, but still earning and getting the priviledges that you worked for.

hth and breathes out (was a long time ago but still a bit of a strssor for me )

in anothr job my boss said to me "oops, i don't think you are putting your job first naymore since you came back from maternity leave"
I honestly had to say "what sort of person would i be if i said that my beuatiful 9month old boy meant less to me than this job. I'm part of a family now and stuff does shift. It's hard on all of us- but my commitment to the job is still the smae, just that my family needs me too. please respect that and give me some time back from my mat leave to sort the balance out"

She's now off on mat leave and i'm hoping that she'll be a little less draconian when she returns.

oh good for you for saying that! Absolutely right. You know when I drop of ds at nursery, I feel the usual working mum guilt and then it's even worse to have to go in and do a job where i have to deal with all the crap and have people bitching about me all the time.
But yes, valid point thinking who might be my manager! Eek...