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Is CM for three days, nursery for two a bit disruptive for a clingy 18 month old DD?

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Acadacadoo · 07/04/2009 11:13

Not sure where to post this, but have a bit of a dilemma and wondered what other people would suggest.

I currently work three days but later this year have to go up to five, although I can work very flexibly and will be able to pick up DD (who will be 18 months by then) early some days/later others etc.

Anyway, I have a lovely CM at the moment, but she can only do three days as she is full otherwise. I can get a place at a nice local nursery for the other two. However, does anyone think that this will be very disruptive for my DD, to spend three days with her CM and the other two at nursery?

The trouble is if I don't take this option, I will need to find her a brand new CM (the nursery also can't take her for all five days), which might be still more disruptive.

DD's a really sociable little thing and loves playing with other kids. However, she took a while to settle at her CM and although I think she is happy there on the whole, she is still quite clingy and does have some less good days.

Thanks everyone!

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insywinsyspider · 07/04/2009 14:23

I think it sounds like a good comprimise, I know friends that have done this, you get the benefits of both, we had a CM for ds1 the first time I went back to work and it was great home from home and much more relaxed than full on nursery but now they both go to nursery (ds1 3 in may and ds2 16 mo) and they love the social side of it and get more opportunity for music time and messy play - any less than 2 days in one place I think would be disruptive I think, the only other thing is are the days consecutive? IMO I think its important to do nursery and CM days together, when we had to move ds's to nursery (CM got another job) we could only get Mon, Tues and Thurs and it was very unsetlling now they do Tues-Thurs and we are all so much happier, they know what to expect rather than too and fro of nursery then home then back to nursery

Settling in for nursery did take longer than CM, but my very clingy ds2 has loads more confidence so it has been good for him, especially since I'm expecting no3 in June so him having that independance and being less of a mummy's boy is really good prep for new brother or sister

Acadacadoo · 08/04/2009 11:43

Thanks Insywinsyspider, that's a good point re: doing consecutive days at nursery/CM.

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