Hello - need sound advice. It's a bit of everything!

[newbiema1984]

Hello all.

I've been scooting round the site for a while now and have found some really useful advice. I guess I just wanted to put this out there to see what advice folk might have. It does involve employment - I'm just a little emotional and shocked at the moment too!

I'm 8 weeks pregnant with a chap who lives 3 hrs away. I love him and know he'd support me, we recently got engaged

We've spoken about this pregnancy and I'm finding it really difficult because I only work part time at the moment, although I've been looking for a job for the past 6 months. I didn't think anyone would take me on if I were pregnant but I see from other peoples responses that it is possible.

I'm really not in a financially stable situation at present, I owe a lot of money out and I'm in a lot of debt which upsets me. I understand there is never an 'ideal' time to have a baby but a huge part of me really wants this to happen. The only thing scaring me half to death is the money situation... well, and if I'm capable of looking after a baby when I've messed my own financial status up so bad.

Sorry it's a bit of a rant. I just need a job really but I'm finding that difficult too. Brain burp over!

Thank you xx

You will find that once the baby comes you will not be spending as much on yourself. Plus you will get tax credits. And if you are living on your own, I imagine you will be classed as a single parent so you will maybe get extra help with your finances. Have a look on entitledto.co.uk for an idea of what you may get.

Could you go to citizens advice and ask for help in structuring your debt so you feel as secure as possible? Can you approach you present employer and see if you can up your hours at all - you don't know till you ask? Also - coming into spring time there will be more seasonal work about - those employers won't mind that you only want 6 months work because that's what they're offering!