i have been offered an interview for a job working away most of the week - opinions needed please

[Tortington]

i have been offered an interview for a post i applied for and never in my wildest thought i would have a chance of getting.

this post is some 300 miles away near my old home town

my kids are 19 and twins 16.

twins are going to college in sept.

i am married and value my marriage highly.

if i get the job, the renumeration is quite good. but i would have accom and petrol expenses and work out the day to day wage at still being quite a lot better than i will be on next year after my current secondment finishes. (by about12k)

my job is easy, i hate it, i am lazy becuase its easy. i don't try, i have been with the company for a number of years and i have been looking for another job since i got here!

the day to day would mean setting off at 5am on a monday morning - staying mon, tue, wed - night and travelling back thurs after work. working from home on fri. ofcourse having flexi days becuase i will work late and annual leave.

it may very well be fryingpan/fire - who knows
or i could love it and have a renewed vigour.

I KNOW some of you have marriages like this.

i think my dh will put the kybosh on the idea

my kids are all but grown but i will miss them

my dh doesn't get back rom work until 7.30 sometimes later anyway.

should i bother even going to the interview

i need your help oh wise ones

if its any incentive i won;t be able to MN a lot

squeeeeeeeeeze help me

Go to the interview at least. What have you got to lose. Does your DH know you have applied for the job?

Well the dc are pretty much self-looking after aren't they?

I bet you & DH will miss each other, but really its not that much time apart, especially as he gets quite late anyway, and you will be home Fri-Mon.

Extra money always a bonus and there is a lot to be said for stretching yourself in your mind iyswim

DEF go to interview

thank you so much for pandering to my patheticism (made up word)

any more opinions? experiences?

Go to the interview, your kids are probably going to have all left home in the next couple of years and this could be something that you absolutely love.

I think it is very doable, you're not going to be away all week and you'll be spending more nights at home than away from it.

How would you feel if you didn't go? Would you be wondering "what if?" for the next however many years you stay in your current job?

more nights at home - yes good argument (for dh)

thanks

I think I'd at least go for the interview. You might get there and decide it really isn't for you, which will make your mind up for you. If you don't go there will always be the 'what ifs..'

My dc's are younger, so don't know so much about that side of things. 7.30 is quite late though, is there anyone else nearby that they can go to should they need someone?

Go to the interview and worry about the logistics if you get the job.

If you get offered the job you'll probably know deep down what you want.

Hubby will miss you but it's a changing point in your families life anyway with your youngests going to college and being 16. How much longer will they be at home? It's a good time to do something adventurous in my opinion (my mum went back to uni when i was the same age and i was so proud of her - you start to relate differently to your parents at that age and seeing you in a boring job you dislike can't be good for their career aspirations).

wow all positive comments, am off to ring DH!

Are you saying that this job pays about £20k pa gross more than the job you would otherwise have?

If you think you would like the job then you should go for it imo. You will have 3 days a week at home after all. Why not do it experimentally for a year and then take stock, if you or dp are unhappy then agree to re-assess and make changes accordingly.

Presumably if it didn't work out you could then get a much better paid job locally with the experience you gained?

I can understand you missing your children but as other posters have said they will be off to university or leaving home in the next couple of years anyway.

With regards to your relationship with dh, absence does make the heart grow fonder, if I was in your shoes I think it would be a positive thing for me but only you and your husband can know whether it could work for you.

On the plus side I think you will value your weekends more, the downside being that you will have to watch your waistline. Make sure that they put you up in a decent hotel with access to a gym not a shitty travel lodge type place where you will end up eating in a McDonalds every night.

Go for it and good luck!!

thank you for all your positive comments.

the job role and seniority would stand me in good sted.

i have booked the interview!! holy shit.

spoke to dh who is very aprehensive but supportive.

fucking eek!