So annoyed with someone at work

[chuckieegg2008]

Im really good friends with someone in work and outside of work, the problem is i've been given a promotion which means i am now her boss. I dont find it difficult drawing the line between work and friendship but she does. The other day i had to tell her off for a job that wasn't done and since then she has been moody and not taking to me.
I just thought she was been moody because i told her off and it came as a bit of a shock to her.

Anyway i went into work today to find out that she spoke to my manager yesterday ( which was my day off) and told my manager that i had something against her and wasn't talking to her, when it was the other way round!!

Im so annoyed

Anyone been in a simular situation. How did you cope?

Oh shit, this is a hard one - I once had to interview an in and out of work friend for a promotion. She interviewed awfully badly and didn't get the job. She was very disappointed - actually gutted and I felt awful, but her interview was crap. We went out and got ratted (why does the strikeout never work for me?) had a chat and she did accept that saying " I really need this job 'cos I'm broke and I need the money" was perhaps not the best interview technique.
She would never have whinged to the line manager, I must say - that is sneakiness of epic proportions. If she had done that I would have had to have asked questions about our friendship.
Anyway, we are still friends now, 10 years after the horrid interview. I know that it's not your exact situation, but I hope it helps.

There's a saying WOOF - worries over old friends which encapsulates this situation. I think it's a recognised condition. Maybe it's out of date now. HTH.

Does your manager know the truth?
Maybe you should try talking to your friend outside of work. If you can draw a line between work and outside, good, but maybe just say that you are sorry if you upset her.
Bottle of wine and two glasses may help too...
Like happycrappy said, this is a hard one.

Oh happycrappy. when you strike out. you have to do each word. eg. each word (without spaces though!)

yes the manager does know the truth now but i feel that the manager doubted me until she knew the truth.

after what i've found out i dont care if were not friends outside of work i will just be cival to her in work.

She knows how much i wanted this promotion i feel proud of myself for doing well and i want to make my little boy proud of me but i feel what she has done has knocked my confidence a bit.

charlotteolivia - oh thank you for the strikeout tip. PS - like your name, it is the name of both my DS's. What's not to like?

i was promoted suddenly at work, and had to help manage 8 people, some of which who had started at the same time of me. All had become good friends. It took a long time for me to get into 'senior work mode' because, when the stuff needed doing, it needed doing. It did take a bit of time to get the respect I needed, as they didn't think much would change, even though it did.
It sounds like she is lacking in the respect you deserve. You have been promoted, she hasn't, and I would have thought that even though she may be jealous, she would do everything possible to help you settle in, including doing her own work properly!!

happycrappy- your ds's are called charlotte and oliver? or charlie and oliver.....?

chuckieegg2008 - don't let it knock your confidence - you got that job and you can be proud of yourself. Sometimes you lose friends when you progress

Charlotte and Olivia

ah- so didnt finish! my point was, is that she can't have been THAT much of a friend if she can't be happy for you, and realise that maybe it will be a bonus having YOU as a manager, as you are also a friend!
Don't let it knock your confidence, I'm sure you're great.

Sorry, I also have some DS who are not called Charlotte or Olivia, oops.

Similar thing for me, friend at work I became senior and had to line manage her eventualy. Recenty although now only a dotte line inot her it has got tougher, mainly cause she's not doing hwat she should. Just keep the line clear, it sher problem not yours.

Thanks for the replies everyone, thought more about it today and decided i dont need people like her in my life i wont think of her as a friend again shes just a work collegue and i will just be cival to her in work.