Hi
My boys are 6 and 3 and I have worked freelance while studying for a PhD since they were born.
DH is an IT contractor who is always on short term contracts miles away so it's been me and the boys together for most of the time for the last couple of years - dh comes home after 7 most days.
Anyway, my freelance stuff dried up end of last year (although I'm busy again now)and I started applying for jobs.
I have two interviews in London on wednesday. One is pretty poorly paid given the commute (it's an hour and a half journey) and the other is for public sector and could chances of home working for part of the week eventually. We couldn't manage on this salary alone as the cost of commute would be about £500 a month.
The only way we could manage the kids if I worked was for dh get a job locally (not proved possible for the last two years) or for him to stop contracting and stay at home.
He is keen to do this and thinks he might be able to get some work in as well. However, I cannot see any prospect of this. He is not at all self-motivated and hasn't a clue how hard it is to drum up business yourself.
He says I can do what I want to but I really feel he is tired of commuting around and would like me to go for this public sector job which would at least be more secure than his work.
I don't think we could manage financially if he gave up work and I have had the kids on my own for so long, I'm not sure he could manage that either - he's never had to even do the school/nursery run for both before.
It just seems too much to me. But I'm worried that we need financial security and I'm being selfish.
I would like to try and give my own freelance work more of a go but don't know that this will develop into much.
Advice/opinions welcome!
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