someone please tell me this will get better - feel like the worst mum in the world

[Piccalilli2]

I went back to work yesterday, dd2 is nearly 9 months and has been exclusively breastfed. She's refusing to eat or drink anything except a bit of water at nursery and sobbed when I dropped her off. This will get better, right? I have to work and alternative childcare isn't an option as dd1 is at the same nursery. Just feel so miserable.

Big hugs! My DD certainly had a few days when she didn't eat v. much - and apparently spent a lot of the time sleeping - but is much better now. Is it DD's first day?

Second day. Yesterday wasn't so bad, but today she knew what was coming and cried when I handed her over.

It will get better. i promise

My dd was miserable for a while and it made me feel wretched. She was literally clawing at my clothes to get fed when I picked her up. She cried herself to sleep on her first couple of times. I remember almost crying myself as I sat in the car park and fed her. But.............it gets so much better.And the nursery staff were great and very understanding. Can they take her in periodically to see her sister in the other room if she gets a bit upset? That sometimes happened at dd's nursery.

It will get better. It's harder on you than her. Can you call the nursery to see how she's doing during the day? I probably called our nursery every lunchtime for the first month (even though dd didn't cry when I left her). You might find she's fine a short while after you leave her and just gets upset at drop off and pick up times. You might also need to give them some information on how you do things at home - my dd wouldn't take a bottle (which I got her used to in advance) because they didn't hold her the same way as I did. She was fine once they gave her a cuddle while she had her milk.
Good luck, big hugs and hope things get better x

I feel for you. My DD (first baby) decided to refuse to feed from a bottle one week before i went back to work, despite having previously been happy to take one bottle a day for 2 months! Panic all round, but she was fine within days. Your dd will be fine, honestly. Before you know it she will be saying "oh no mum, I don't want to go home yet"!That was my experience.

My bf ds cried whenever I dropped him off at nursery from when he was 6 months till when he was over 2 and a half I think. I felt REALLY guilty and mean. We'd basically never been apart till then. I pumped milk at work for him.
Nursery said they thought it was more anger than anything (when he was a bit older). BUT when I went to get him he'd obviously had a completely fabby time and would usually be pretty difficult to drag home, sometimes REALLY difficult to get him to come home....He's now three and a half, usually he dances in to nursery and forgets to wave bye but still sometimes he clings to me and I have to pass him to one of his trusted nursery ladies who give him a lovely cuddle and settle him with a nice activity with one of his many best friends.

Not looking forward to going through the first couple of weeks again with my new dd though.

It will get better...it is a big step

Thanks everyone. With a bit of perspective I have realised that it is a big thing for her, she doesn't know the people I'm leaving her with and she's never really been left before. It will get better.