Am being blanked at work - no-one speaks to me all day, should I say something to OM

[jogym]

I work in an office with 3 others. Basically when I come in the morning til I go home there are days when not one word has been spoken to me. It is a little clique and I just don't understand why people can be so rude. They will all go off and make tea together, eat together, sometimes offering sometimes not. It has got to the stage now that because they know I am not talking to them I am now being blanked as if I'm not even there. Should I say something to someone that I am not happy with this situation and it is making me very down.

Sorry, it all sounds a bit patheitc and 'she said, he said'.
Just treat them normally - say hello in the morning and goodbye in the evening, start a conversation about soemthing that interests you and go from there - if they ignore you keep notes in case you want to tell OM later.

Rise above it and be the one in the right if / when the sh*t hits the fan

Agree with edam.

You know what the problem is, the next step is working out what the best possible action is that you can take to make things better for yourself.

Assuming mykiddies you are the OP, I'm not sure speaking to your manager in that way is going to achieve what you want. If you can deal with it yourself, speak to these women and try and move past it, they will respect you more and it is more likely to bring about the result you want.

Try not to get too hung up on principles, and think about the result you want and how best to get there.

Two ladies at work are deliberately trying to stress me out and slander my name because I won?t talk to them about my baby.

I chose to blank them as last year one of them asked me when was my due date and I told her and she then gave me a cross between a dirty look and rolled eyes at me. From then I just cut her right out of my conversations. The other one then got angry because my Aunt had died! Bizare! The team PA came over and asked me why I was on leave so she could record it ? when I told her the other girl slammed down her pen in anger in response

I always make sure I'm being polite and I?ve kept it to myself. I love ignoring their snide remarks and bitterness. I put it down to jealousy.

I come in and say hello/goodbye and work in a polite manner and it bugs them.

I kind of like the fact that they are bitter and I'm happy about my baby. That's their own self-inflicted punishment for their own meanness.

I'm in a similar situation but not nearly as bad jogym. A lot of people in my office are friendly but there are a few people I work with who are really cliquey and one person in particular who I work with who quite often blanks me for a whole day (even though we sit about a metre apart, facing each other!).

Since I've come back from maternity leave I've taken the view that I'm just here to do my job and then get back to my lovely DD so I try not to let it bother me. I just keep my head down and get on with it. If he doesn't want to talk to me then that's fine!

If it's getting to you then I think you should say something though. As other people have said, if you make a point of saying hello and being super friendly then they'll look pretty silly if they carry on trying to blank you.

I went through this situation in a previous job. There were 4 of us in the office in total, and often the director (one of the 4) wasn't there. When it was 3 of us, things were fine, because one of my coworkers was quite mature and professional- she may not have liked me but she did say hello, etc. When there were just 2 of us, it was HELL. It was like this a lot, as the director and 3rd person were often out. I was so miserable and depressed- she would simply ignore me, or if I tried to talk to her, she would give me a one word answer. Went on like this for ages. One day I just couldn't take it anymore and when it was just the 2 of us I blurted out "Have I done something to offend you?" And everything came out- she didn't like me because of something I said. She was very immature and like the coworkers you described- into her shopping and fake tans and going out on the piss. Even though it was hard to hear someone criticising me, it was far better to air it than to suffer in silence. Good luck!