Just a little update.
DH was made redundant.
I was depressed being at home.
So we've swapped.
We're now a few weeks in and both much much happier.
DH is enjoying the time with the children without deadlines and too many contraints and is learning all the details about sorting DS1 out for nursery and taking over the communication with them. He's doing a better job with the housework than i ever do and is even getting a bit of DIY done.
I'm loving being asked my professional opinion on things and am feeling confident i can fulfil my role. I also love my lunch breaks and the freedom to be out and about in the car alone as part of my job.
The kids are really pleased to see me when i get home and i have missed them too so i'm enthusiastic when playing with them and really enjoying their company. I don't work long days every day and it feels like a break.
Maybe it's just because it's the beginning and new and we feel enthusiastic about our new roles. But it's going so well I had to share.