Update for you who are intersted!!
Well I went in and said that I'd had a think with my husband about what they said on Friday - I said that in the first instance I didn't have that much money. I said that I too had spoken with the SRA and also an employment solicitor from the last firm I worked at and they had strongly advised me not to pay and instead to raise a greivance and report the matter to the SRA for investigation.
I said that I understood the position of the firm and that I was willing to offer £500 towards the cost of the course because I can't be doing with the stress at this time and my husband was agreeable to this. I said I didn't want to raise a grievance and he agreed and said that yes, these things can get bloody.
He said that he was aware when he said it that it sounded like blackmail and it wasn't meant to, it was meant to be a good compromise between the two of us. I said that having spoken to the SRA there are things the trainee can do in order to proceed to an adjudicator signing you off if the firm didn't and this was common, apparently, and the adjudicator does in most cases sign off a trainee where it's been contested. I said that whilst I didn't want to fight this fight and considering I'd have a babe in arms whilst doing so, I would be prepared to do so as I've kept a pretty awesome records of my training from the start (and to think I complained about this at the time!!) and the only other evidence to the contrary is their one appraisal.
He understood what I was saying and asked when the course was. I said soon and I have to get booked on it very shortly. He said "ok, I'm sure we can come to some arragement" and he had to speak with the other partner tomorrow. The other partner in this lovely trio is on holiday. Thank God.
He said he was sorry it had come to this and I agreed. He didn't want me to leave under a cloud and I said I didn't also but a new start with a new team (i.e. litigation, employment or family) in Jan might do the trick.
We then spoke about dogs for a while, how much one of the other partners works and cars and babies.
Before I left the office I said "ok I'll leave it with you but please do bear in mind that I have to get on this course soon as it's the only one I can possibly do without heading to Chester!" and he said he would.
He should speak with the other partner who's in this week either today or tomorrow, I am guessing. In the meantime, I will get my place on the course confirmed and move my 20 week scan date (as it falls on the same day as the exam).
If I haven't heard from them by 12 o clock tomorrow I'll ask for an update.
I know that this leaves me a little open re: their threat not to sign me off, but I believe when the time comes, they simply will. If they don't, as I said above, I believe an adjudicator will sign me off. I hope it doesn't come to that.
I am interested as to whether they'll come to me for the £500 - but we'll see.
Dealing with him on his own is a lot easier than the three together with the other women there.
Any thoughts/suggestions on what to do now? And thank you for your invaluable support and advice x