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Trainee solicitor - pregnant, and not really getting on with work....!

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cfc · 06/10/2008 11:17

Hello,

I am a trainee solicitor in my penultimate seat - I have 3 months in litigation to do from Jan - March and then the plan is that I qualify into the private client dept in June. My baby is due on May 7th and I can qualify in my absence from work as long as it isn't for 4 months or longer.

Anyway, my firm are in the process of letting people go, cutting back etc. I was taken on as a trainee but a viable fee earner in the conveyancing depy just before it went tits up. I had a fee earner's wage - not a trainee wage. I didn't do well in that dept though I have had lots of experience. I wasn't given the work which came in as there wasn't much of it and what I did do was of law value, th work went to the fee earners who had been here longest, as it should, I suppose.

So I moved into the private client dept but have had some trouble grasping the work and have had regular meetings (aside from my monthly Training Principal meetings) with the two women who head the dept about the standard of my work. They aren't happy with me and I am really not happy here. Now I know why the last trainee left, and the two women they got in in her stead left, one within two weeks of starting. It's just such a difficult dept to work in and the pressure on me is high thanks to the fact that I am still benig paid as a fee earner but now don't bring in anything more than my £1000 a month trainee target.

I hate it here and plan to leave, but I live about 1 hour from work and all my appts for ante-natal care are in my home town. I know that they are going to start getting pissed off with me and wondering what's going on. I am nearly 10 weeks pregnant. Bearing in mind the above, shall I tell them now?

What will help me the best? If I tell them now are they likely to think twice before making me redundant or sacking me (I think it might be that close, they're losing too much money on me!) or will it make them do it, do you think?

Help please, I am in such a quandary!

Thank you for reading.

Cx

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Poppycake · 07/10/2008 11:17

ha ha!

Try not to worry too much about the quality of work - all can be talked up in the CV. There are a lot of people doing very shite traineeships out there - all you can do is make the best of it, and get all the "freestanding" quals possible to garnish the old CV with.

Do take care of yourself tho - as a very wise HR person told me when i was stressing about the files, it's the baby that matters the most.

tigger15 · 07/10/2008 11:18

Sorry other thing I meant to add. A bad supervisor can really knock your confidence. My first supervisor was absolutely horrific, destroyed my confidence and had me making awful mistakes and left me feeling as if there was nothing I could do right. It took 2 seats with a really nice supervisor to get anywhere near where I had been.

However, changing firms was one of the best things I could have done as I felt like I was starting with a clean slate and without all the preconceptions of everyone in a small office knowing me as a screw up. I haven't made any similar mistakes since then.

cfc · 07/10/2008 11:53

Cheers poppy and tigger, I am more relaxed now that I've made my decision!

I can't wait to get into my small litigation seat. The sol in that office is really great and full time! So I feel I will get a lot from her. I really can't wait. I also will try try try really hard and when she reports back to my training principal that I'm doing ever so well they'll be like "eh?!" Mwahahahaaa!!

You are right tigger, the supervisor I have has me so wound up that I find myself making really silly mistakes!! I get so mad with myself, which doesn't help.

Anyway, it's all ok now. I've made my choice, shall tell them tomorrow that I'm pg, will do my PSC asap and get my litigation seat out of the way with flying colours, return to this dept, leave for mat leave in April and qualify in June in my absence. I'll prob hand in my notice with three months to go to the end of my mat leave and push DH for the move Oop North. I have friends in firms up there and have heard that private client NQs are rare, so I might just be ok....

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mumof2222222222222222boys · 07/10/2008 14:03

Best of luck with it all. I am sure it will work out for the best.

I left the firm (big regional) 1 yr PQE (didn't return after maternity leave) and took time out. 3 years later I have found a brilliant job in house, and am very happy.

My first seat as a trainee was awful and I would echo the above comments. Zilch confidence.

cfc · 07/10/2008 16:26

Thanks mumof2, it is great to hear when things haven't got off to the best start that they usually do work out. That's what I have to hold onto!

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ilovemydog · 07/10/2008 20:26

It will all work out!

Am retraining to be a family mediator, and while the pay isn't great, the hours are fab for women with small children.

Hope it goes well, and post how it went!

cfc · 08/10/2008 14:16

Well I bit the bullet and told my training principal today. I had another request for absence and I just said that I had better explain what's going on so they didn't think I was dying or something! She said well, we don't like to ask and we just hope you're ok? I said I was 10 weeks' pregnant and she said congratulations. She is a real mum type person, always talking about her kids etc so I knew that she would be happy. She didn't mention anything about work which is good. We had a chat about the surprise (her first was a surprise) and going for the scan and my worry about that....but all in all I feel a whole lot better about telling them.

Thanks so much for your advice, I prob wouldn't have gone through with it so soon if it weren't for you!

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ilovemydog · 09/10/2008 11:17

So pleased your principal has been human about it all - that's exactly the right response: congratulations

Well done for getting the courage to tell them. I think it was the right thing to do! Now you can enjoy your pregnancy....

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