New job - advice please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[fifitot]

Just got a new job, a promtion. The job spec stated that I would need to do occasional overnights if needed to attend a conference. Wasn't 100% about this but thought would manage. However due to start Oct and one of the first things they want me to do is go on a conference which means 2 nights away from LO!

The problem is that LO and I have never spent a night apart. She is 2 and still has a bf before bed and in the morning. I know this can't last forever but it works for us at the moment. Don't know how she will cope if I am not there at bed time! I feel bad if have to pull out of conf and tbh they won't be best pleased! I guess they would understand if LO was a baby and still BFing but at 2????

Any advice???

I'm sure she'll cope. Will you though?
Give her a call before she goes to bed.

Don't pull out of the conference because of this. Especially as you knew occasional overnights were a part of the job. It's reasonable of them to assume that you will be able to attend, and you absolutely should, particularly so soon into a new job.

If no one else has ever put your DD to bed except you, you will obviously worry, and you can reduce your concerns by having a few 'practice' goes before the conference, so it's not a huge big deal. She may be completely fine with it anyway but if you can reassure yourself beforehand and get your DP/DH/whoever comfortable in terms of what will work best when you're not there, you'll worry a bit less and be able to focus on what you are there for.

Congratulations on promotion!

Might be helpful to post this in Breastfeeding to ask for other people who've done the same as you and done bedtime themselves for a long time then needed to introduce possibility of someone else doing it so they could go away/out for the evening, ask how they went about it.

Thanks for advice and comments x