Who can help me with work psychology stuff?

[WilfSell]

I could do with less:

saying yes to everything
trying to do everything
wanting to solve every problem
doing too much then crashing and burning

I could do with more:

focus
prioritising
saying no
planning for contingency and downtime
impulse control!

I know the theory (god, I've been on the time management course!) but somehow I think I'm never gonna be one of those calm, organised, in control employees who knows exactly how to get through what they've gotta get through.

Instead I am the burn-out queen: incredibly productive and then, er, not. And not always at the most important things.

Is there any hope?

saying yes to everything
trying to do everything
wanting to solve every problem
doing too much then crashing and burning

ooh, that will be me then!

saying yes to everything
trying to do everything
wanting to solve every problem
doing too much then crashing and burning

ooh, that will be me then!

I think some folks are just born to be suckers, tbh.

Cheers expat.

Yes, it was meant tongue in check.

Whatever.

OK, sorry. Oversensitive? Moi?

There is a theory that if you can clearly articulate exactly what you want to move away from and what you want to move towards you will do it. You have started in your first post but it needs to be more specific. Best way to do it is to get someone to act as a coach and ask you questions.

You also need to understand why you are doing this - more difficult. You are definately getting something out of the behaviours and the new ones you say you want aren't attractive enough - or you would have done them.

What do negatives are you associating with the behaviours you say you want? What do you think of people who do what you say you want - do you think they aren't team players - that they are lazy?

What are you getting out of your current behaviours? Praise?