baby doesn't notice I've gone back to work

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Boo Hoo!
I returned to work this week and left my baby with my parents for a day and a half and my husband for a day. When I went to pick him up my mother told me "he didn't even notice you weren't there". I'd missed him all day and apparently he hadn't even noticed I'd not been around. 8 months of taking care of all his needs, breast feeding, poor sleep, childbirth. I loved him to bits. A part of me wondered if this was my mother being unkind, but then when my husband had him he also said that baby had been fine all day. I should be happy that he's an independent soul but it hurts. Anyone else had this experience?

I think it was your mother and husband trying to make you feel reassured that the baby was happy and settled so that you didn't feel bad for working.

You still love him to bits! This way is much better than a screaming child clinging on to you when you have to leave. My kids have always been fine when i've gone back to work. Being with family helps though I think!

Didn't mean to use the past tense for love! Yes, I do love him to bits, and yes I am happy that he's not clingy or sad all day. Glad to hear laylaandseths mum had kids who were fine too. Thanks Uber!

Be pleased that he settled well. My dd2 has recently learned that crying when mummy goes to work gets lots of attention. I know she doesn't cry for long though- I have stood outside the door at nursey and today watched her for 10 min in the garden. She just gets lots of cuddles instead.

It is good to know that your ds is with people he knows and is happy to be left.

Do you ring them during they day- I found it better when i could talk hear them on the phone- it is reassuring. Just don't panic if they are crying- you know that they cry even when you have done everything possible for them.

I was at home for a year with dd3 and she is perfectly happy at nursery now.Rejoice that he is so secure in your relationship and in the carers you are leaving him with that he's fine all day.

Than go and have a good blub! It's great but it hurts as well - like much of our parenting life

You are still the most important person in the world to him. He's happy because he's been so well cared for eight months!

Believe me, you'd feel a hundred times worse if he was miserable without you! As everyone says, he is happy and secure. If he was crying for you when you were at work, think how that would make you feel.

I probably do need a good blub!! it's hard leaving this tiny person that you've spent every waking moment with since the moment you gave birth to him. Just the next step in our journey I guess. Thanks for all the responses, I think I'll have a few chocolate minstrels rather than a cry and celebrate my secure son!