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What shall I do?

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Habesha91 · 06/07/2026 00:19

Me and my colleague have been working together for nearly 6 years and we are close. We haven't socialised outside work or never met anyone families but she's the closet to me in the office.

On thing I don't like about her is that she somehow copies or wants to do the stuff I did. For example, when I was about to get married she announced her wedding two or three months before my wedding day and ended up getting married a month before me. Prior to that, she clearly said she never believed in marriage and that she's happy with how things are. However as soon as I told her I'm getting married, she ended up getting married too.

Then she wanted to go to the same holiday place as I did, I saw her looking online for flights and I was surprised. This is not the only place she wanted to go to another one I went to as well.

Now the issue is, she just told me that she's looking for a house in my area and was asking which postcode I'm at and checking the exact name place. I totally felt creeped out with this one more because this is where I live and my home is, didn't feel comfortable at all. She has asked me twice about this since we chatted on the phone in a week's space and I told her the place.

I know I might be unreasonable and overreacting but the house moving situation is weird to me. This is because this will be her third home in a span of two years and she just moved to the house she's now like 9 months ago.

My instincts tells me that this is not good and I'm being watched and I couldn't trust this person. Whenever I'm on the call with her my heart beats faster and I feel so anxious too.

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namechangedforthis21 · 06/07/2026 00:21

Tell your looking at houses in a different area from where you currently live and hopefully she’ll move there instead.

Whatbloodysummer · 08/07/2026 11:51

Yeah, you need to stop telling her about anything in your life?

Make up answers whenever she asks e.g

'Where are you going on holiday?'

'We're going to Tenerife this year' when you're actually going to Italy.

Any question she asks, just be vague or lie?

You don't have to prove where you live, where you went on holiday etc, so she'll be none the wiser? Also you can just say 'Yeah, we changed our minds about that in the end'.

I'd be telling her that you're looking at moving to another area (opposite direction to where you actually live) and leave your computer open with ads for houses in that area, or leave printouts of house listings etc?

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