New role after bad work experience

[Dearthdearthdearth]

I don't like my job and I find the working environment tricky. They've made substantial changes to our roles and we get a constant stream of negativity and unsolicited feedback on our work. But it is flexible and I have been here almost five years. I hate new jobs and struggle with changes, anxiety and being assertive. The only colleague I really speak to told me she was applying for roles and I was terrified I would be left behind and I was sure she would leave as she's fantastic so I started applying, she didn't get her new job and I've now been offered a new role.

The salary is only £1k more but they've potentially said I can have the same flexible working set up I have now and the commute would be the same as it's practically next door. I feel like my confidence has been battered by my current role but is it better the devil you know? I'm worried I won't be able to do the role even though it's the same job. Also, it feels strange that I would still be commuting to the same place but I am making this a bigger deal than it needs to be? Would you take the role?

I would make sure of the flexible set up first, you don't want to accept and them to change their minds about flexibility, but otherwise, if you hate your current job and only really talk to one colleague who is clearly looking to leave, then changing jobs sounds good.

I got a new job next door to my old job, took a while before I stopped automatically turning into the wrong car park

Thank you. I've learnt my lesson about having flexible working in writing. I just feel very conflicted and worried about my ability to chose jobs. The last two have been shockers. One place was bad enough that it ended up in the newspapers for bullying. My nice colleague is determined not to be there by the end of this year and we've really leaned on each other. I think I had it in my head that I would really struggle to find a new job. I don't interview well.

I left a job in which I was severely bullied for a very similar role. (although considerably better paid!)
I spent most of the first 6 months terrified that the bully from the previous role would tell lies about me and I'd find myself out of that job. He did try, and definitely tried to cause issues (eg on my first day he "just happened" to email someone in the company and copied me in - apparently he'd never emailed them before etc).

I confided quite early on to my colleague, and she protected me to a certain extent. But that meant that she understood when I reacted to things in a way that seemed odd and helped me get through it. She also would prevent things getting through to me if she knew it was a problem and reassured me when I was finding things difficult.

I'm a few years down the line now, and I can say that moving jobs was the best thing for me. I can also say that I look at all the people who put their head in the sands and said they couldn't possibly comment on the situation and realise I got the better of the deal - they were stuck with him who was fully awkward and I wasn't the only person who was bullied, plus he was doing various dodgy things which they're having to sort out hoping they don't get called out for it.

Yes I have second interviewed for less then the current role and it was alright this interviewer approached also having a disability, (you think if they can do it so can I) just so I can get away and no longer be spoken to so disgustingly, where I end up on a pip and others blatantly allowed to make mistake with zero consequences.

Mid 40’s so hardly wanted but no longer want to deal with patronising jobsworths.