Help please.
I work alongside another manager and our jobs often blur as I manage tasks and work flow and she manages people and their issues. Other manager really resents my job. As it means she no longer controls the floor. I used to work under her, now work alongside. Manager 1 (her) and I have very different styles of doing things but mostly it works.
I dont get involved in long term sick reviews for example but I need to know who they involve as that person won't be on the floor working. I report on output per person and previous day activities but she would bring up the team leader and 121. So you can see how we basically share same info but do different things with it. It's been this way for 18 months. My role was given to me with a big pay rise, I work on a system that was mis sold and ive tarted up a rights pig ear, so I do think she thought my job would be one thing and its not. My manger is pleased with my performance tho.
The problem. I believe manager 1 might feel threatened by me, she has no reason to. Ive been clear i can't look for another job for 3 years due to childcare commitments and while she's still in her role I can't take it anyway! There's a lot of comments such as why are you doing it this way/why is T talking to you about this, T works for her but talks to me as we have shared interest and this was pre our start times/oh legoleopard your such a work in progress/what are you doing now/tonight at finish she teamsed me saying let's catch up tmw at 9, this was 530 unless it's tonight tele we wouldn't need to/ when I work from home will ask where I am/why am I not in hq.
Mostly we get on well and we do need the other one as our jobs are too big for one person to do properly. Ive spoken to her in the past as once she said I think you have forgotten whose the boss, I replied yeah she is and pointed to our boss. I very almost snapped today when she said something about a team chat having too much talk in it yet all I had asked was if anyone was late. Our boss is very much sort it out yourself type. We both have 20 years plus service there.
How do you deal with someone who has created what they think is real (me taking her job) and won't see reason? And headbutting her is not an option! Sorry for rambling, ive gotten to the point where I just dont feel respected by her I guess as an equal? Any advice welcome.