Struggling to settle into a new job in my late fifties

[Sowhatwouldyousay]

After some advice from people who has started a new job but just can't settle. I was in the same job for 16 years before I decided I couldn't stand the toxic atmosphere anymore. I started this new job about 6 months ago and I just can't settle. I am 58 years old and just fed up really! Learning new things is a battle and if I was honest my heart just isn't in it anymore. On the outside I try and cope but inside I am a mess. I can't retire for a few more years. The job is okay but uninspiring tbh! The office is planning a move in a few months to even further away than they are now (I wouldn't have taken the job had I been told that so I am constantly worrying about that ). I so wish I could have shut up and stayed in my old job for a few more years. I don't think looking for another job is a good idea at the moment but I didn't expect to feel so low and almost like I have wasted my life.

You need to remember all the bad stuff about your last job…. Intolerably toxic just for starters

Look for something else, if a new job asks why you’re leaving after 6 months, use the office move as a reason. Think about all the reasons why you left your last job, it was a toxic environment and is unlikely to be any better now so don’t waste time looking back.

@nochance17 Apparently its worse! I don't hate the new job, its just not what I expected and with the office move I think I have lost hope!

I’d take the advice from @nochance17

You can look while you’re in work and make it low stress as you are not desperate to move .

We have to work for a long time yet at this age - don’t be miserable while doing it.

Do you work full time? Hybrid?

@ HarrietBeat I work 25 hours per week Monday to Thursday office based.

Honestly I would just look for another job, even if it takes a while to find one you'll still feel better because you have made a decision to leave, and the location change gives you the perfect response if asked at interview why you are moving on again after a short period of time.

Is there any chance you could condense your hours into 3 days? Or go hybrid.

Look for anew job and use office move as the reason.

If I stayed with the office move I would have to go 50:50 office/hybrid anyway otherwise its not financially worth it but I think they want an office based person. I have already said that I can't go to the new location so its really down to how bad they want me! (probably not that much!)

What about temp work. Try contact some agencies.
information is power.
You still have options.
Good luck

How did you go OP?

@ whattheflipz Thank you for asking. I have decided to look for something I really want without putting too much pressure on myself to look straight away and use the move as the reason (although it is half the reason anyway). I have also mentioned that if they do move I cannot do the drive so have sort of planted the seed!

Well fingers crossed. I'm sure the right thing will come along!