Does anyone else feel like this after an interview?

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I’ve not been happy at my work for a while, for various reasons, and consequently I applied for a new job (externally) a few weeks ago. I had an interview and ever since, typically, work has been great! Busy but not too busy, get on with my team (this was never an issue), just generally a nice working environment and now I’m struggling to remember why I wanted to leave!

this seems to happen every time I get to the point where I dislike my job so much I apply for another one (so far always internally). I know logically the issues that made me want to leave are still there, and I know work has peaks and troughs but I don’t even know if I want to leave now but if I don’t, and the reasons come flooding back I’ll be so annoyed!

(just ranting really, I don’t even know if I’ve got the new job so I don’t know why I’m panicking about leaving!) just wondered if this happens to anyone else and how you handle it?

Could it be that making a plan to leave has boosted your tolerance level a bit? Sort of subconsciously knowing that you are working on your route out of there.

Its fear of the unknown so your brain is conspiring with you to say 'you dont really want to leave, stay here'

But also fear of failure in case you dont get offered the job 'well I didnt get offered the job but its ok because actually I really like it here and want to stay''

Be wise to these self sabotaging narratives and see them for what they are.

It's also like that when you're about to leave a job I find. Everyone suddenly being nicer or so it seems. It's probably that you're relieved, in both cases, to be relieving and your whole persona is more positive.

Thank you both for the replies and yes this totally makes sense!

@KeeleyJ before I even applied for another role I think I’d made the decision in my head i was leaving (something happened that was my final straw so I almost felt at peace when it happened as this was my ‘permission’ to leave). So absolutely makes sense they things bother me a bit less.

@likelysuspect yes this resonates so much! I’ve been at my current workplace for 20 years and a big part of me is worried another company could be worse so I’m trying to tell myself but it could be so much better!

the mind works in mysterious ways!

@Roundaboutsandcars absolutely, and looking back every time I’ve moved to a new role internally, I don’t think I’ve ever regretted it and wished I was doing an old role. Thank you!

got the new job, in January
scared as fuck when the wound split open late January.

What is lymphoedema say new employer and dumb hr.

Anyway dbs paid later and an expectation I’d start even before I’d actually formally been given notice as advised by their own hr, I find myself with an impossible start date unless I’d do something with no integrity.

New job failed. We’re all happy aren’t we,