I work for a large supermarket company that is international when I applied for the job I was applying for the job on the basis of the advert which said it was based in a certain area which covered three towns which was close to me so I accepted the role because I have a disabled child who is SEN registered and I knew that I would be able to work this around his schooling. He has to go to the specific school as they support his needs since I’ve put in that flexible work request I’ve been subjected to not so nice treatment and I am struggling to come to work. It’s affecting my personal life my family and I’m so anxious and I just can’t sleep. I’m struggling to eat. I just generally can’t function very well only a few people that I trust at work are aware of the situation I put in this flexible work request and it was a fight to put it in. I had an end of year review meeting which lasted all of five minutes with my area manager where he decided to call me a sheep. I let this go but I have documented it all. It was only me and him in the room he also said if I don’t finish my training by June then I might have not have a job but I’m not saying you won’t have a job. He said my other peers who are also going through the same training haven’t been subjected to this treatment and their training not being completed doesn’t matter and they are at the same stage as me but are not being pressured in this way during my flexible working meeting. I read the notes and signed off. I’ve received the outcome letter and it is a complete misrepresentation of the meeting and does not reflect the notes. It makes me out to not know what I’m talking about in regards to my child’s school the distance I travel and where I live which has made me feel very stupid even though I know it’s not true there are male managers in the same role as me who have a flexible work request in place for their childcare mine was denied due to it affecting business quality or performance but there’s doesn’t affect that apparently I just want to restrict how far they can send me to travel so I’m able to pick my son up from school. I cannot move his school due to his needs I never applied for the job knowing that I would have to travel so far but now I feel that I am being belittled targeted and put down because of my flexible working request, it’s affecting my performance at work and I’m struggling every single day. I haven’t raised this formally because I am so worried about the consequences.
My area manager was in the business and was talking to another area manager and he said that he is not interested and doesn’t care about my situation or circumstances. This was overheard by one of my team who I trust I have a doctor‘s appointment on Friday because I simply cannot cope. I know it is highly likely that they will sign me off but I am terrified to go sick because the whole time I will wonder what the consequences of that are when I return.