Been offered a job, Dh not keen

[mandybagpuss]

I have been sahm for 3 years with twins, they are off to pre school in September, I have been offered a nice job working in a kindegarden of a big private school. All the staff seemed cool, I was all excited about adult conversations and being out in the world, the salary is not great but hey better than the salary ive been on for 4 years (zero)
It would mean leaving my boys at nursery 8-4, everyone says I am mad as my little ones will get sick all the time at nursery, and I'd be forever taking time off
My husband says I shouldnt bother working and that our children are more important.
Guilt from every angle, anyone got any advice? cheers

as they say, remove the plaenta and insert the guilt! - tahts here to stay I'm afraid.
being at home for 3 years is pretty good going with regards to your Dh opinion that the kids are more important.
a penny to a pound, when they are at full time shool, he'll be expeting you to work.
With regards to Nursery, sikness et all - possibly will pik up more germs - its the rule of averages - millions of toddlers are at nursery - the mortality rate hasn't shot up as far as I';m aware !

Eh, I think you've already proved that you know your children are important by giving up your career for the past three years to care for them.....its time you (and they) gained a little independence...I think ur husband is being selfish tbh. It is true what people say about being sick at nursery but IMO it prepares them more for starting school. If you work in a kindergarten they will understand this and should be quite good with you on this front.

if you want o do it do it.

if your dh is so taken with the 'welfare' of your children - why dont you suggest that he stay at home - and you are quit willing to downshift to accomodate his ideals

Congrats on being offered a job.

If you really want to do it then go for it. However, do take a pause and think things through first.

I would not agree that your children are more important. Everybody is important in a family and ultimately if you are happy and fulfilled then your children should be fine.

However, If your dh is not supportive you may find yourself working and running the home (both very tiring). Also, how much adult conversations would you in a kindegarten?

My major concern (if you don't have work for financial reasons) is that you will have been working hard for last three years with your twins and it may be worth not going back to work straight away and giving yourself a break for a few months before going into the job market.

Hope that helps

p.s. every mother feels guilty no matter what they do!

Thanks for all the replies people, i have to give my answer by Monday I willlet you allknow what I decide. Cheers

I would take the job.

Ul probably be on probation or a trial period for the first while anyway so u can always leave if things dont work out for you or you think the kids are "badly affected" by it....but Ive got a feeling they will love it (and so will you)!

i took the job, im really happy I did, thanks for all your help.xx