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RoeDeer86 · 13/01/2026 18:07

Hi. For context, I am a single parent to a 6 year old. Work four days a week, 28 hours. Paid just above minimum wage for a what I’d say is a fairly skilled job. Hybrid working - full time staff do 2 days in the office and 3 at home. To save me having to do 1.5 office days pro rata, my boss agreed I could do 1 office day one week, 2 days the next (alternating). My mum picks up DS 2 days a week, can’t do anymore than that, nor do I expect her to.

Work (higher up than our big boss) are now saying they want us in 3 days a week. That would be pro rata for me, which is the equivalent of 2.4 days a week. I’m guessing they’d accept me doing 2 days one week, 3 the next.

My problem is this. I don’t drive and live a good 1.5hrs on public transport from the office (don’t shoot me, I bought a house where I could afford it and after Covid thought about leaving but then they let us work in a hybrid model which currently works well). I’ve juggled hours so I can pick DS up three times a week. He goes to breakfast and after school club on the days I WFH. Breakfast club starts at 8am after school club finishes at 4:30pm. My working hours vary very slightly each day, they’re usually 8am-4pm. There’s literally no way I could get into the office in time and do the school run and pick up. Oftentimes my bus doesn’t turn up on my office days and it’s taken four hours to get home before.

There is one childminder at DS’ school and she’s always full. No other minders or wraparound provision beyond that.

Apparently this 3 day rule will apply to everyone, but I really don’t know what to do and it will literally be impossible to do what they’re asking.

I did think about reducing my hours but that will impact our family significantly as I’m the only earner. Plus doing 3 days means I’d have to make up 0.4 of a day somewhere.

Can anyone offer any advice, please?

Many thanks

OP posts:
Flaked · 13/01/2026 18:08

The job isn’t logistically suitable for you. Not your employer’s fault.

You thought about leaving pre Covid for this reason and then Covid’s delayed it.

Now is the time

Treatingmyself · 13/01/2026 18:10

Time to look for a new job.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/01/2026 18:11

Covid was years ago, and your office is a totally impractical distance away. Time to look for a new job

newornotnew · 13/01/2026 18:11

What does your contract say and what was the specific agreement when taking the job - was it a fixed agreement or just temporary?

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 13/01/2026 18:14

Can you make a flexible working request?

WutheringTights · 13/01/2026 18:14

Can you make a flexible working request? You’re entitled to do that and they have to consider it. They can only turn it down for business reasons. It’s currently a weak employment right but worth a try before taking a hit to your income.

pinkteddy · 13/01/2026 18:15

Im in a similar position OP except I live even further away. I’ve told my boss I will have to seriously consider my position if they implement and have suggested alternatives. Can you suggest an alternative that will work for you and see if they accept?

Tomikka · 13/01/2026 18:16

RoeDeer86 · 13/01/2026 18:07

Hi. For context, I am a single parent to a 6 year old. Work four days a week, 28 hours. Paid just above minimum wage for a what I’d say is a fairly skilled job. Hybrid working - full time staff do 2 days in the office and 3 at home. To save me having to do 1.5 office days pro rata, my boss agreed I could do 1 office day one week, 2 days the next (alternating). My mum picks up DS 2 days a week, can’t do anymore than that, nor do I expect her to.

Work (higher up than our big boss) are now saying they want us in 3 days a week. That would be pro rata for me, which is the equivalent of 2.4 days a week. I’m guessing they’d accept me doing 2 days one week, 3 the next.

My problem is this. I don’t drive and live a good 1.5hrs on public transport from the office (don’t shoot me, I bought a house where I could afford it and after Covid thought about leaving but then they let us work in a hybrid model which currently works well). I’ve juggled hours so I can pick DS up three times a week. He goes to breakfast and after school club on the days I WFH. Breakfast club starts at 8am after school club finishes at 4:30pm. My working hours vary very slightly each day, they’re usually 8am-4pm. There’s literally no way I could get into the office in time and do the school run and pick up. Oftentimes my bus doesn’t turn up on my office days and it’s taken four hours to get home before.

There is one childminder at DS’ school and she’s always full. No other minders or wraparound provision beyond that.

Apparently this 3 day rule will apply to everyone, but I really don’t know what to do and it will literally be impossible to do what they’re asking.

I did think about reducing my hours but that will impact our family significantly as I’m the only earner. Plus doing 3 days means I’d have to make up 0.4 of a day somewhere.

Can anyone offer any advice, please?

Many thanks

You are entitled to request flexible working, and have a statutory right to do so (recent legislation widens the employer rights on this)

https://www.gov.uk/flexible-working

The business does not have to accept, but must be reasonable in considering the request

Flexible working

Requesting flexible working, how to make an application, what business reasons an employer can give to reject an application and how to appeal.

https://www.gov.uk/flexible-working

Igmum · 13/01/2026 18:17

As others have said, flexible working request. Make sure you specify how this flexibility will benefit the business/fit business need. Good luck 🤞

TiredTrainLady · 13/01/2026 18:17

I expect this will be happening more and more.... if it doesnt suit you then its time to look for a new role if your contract states office as main place of work.

Spirallingdownwards · 13/01/2026 18:18

You can make a flexible working request and I would do so as soon as possible.

It may well be worth looking for a more local job as well but don't rush to resigning without making the request

PhantomOfAllKnowledge · 13/01/2026 18:20

Could actually doing 2.4 days in the office work, instead of the alternating 2/3 pattern? If they would accept you doing a half (ish) day and then working later at home to make up the travel time that fell in office hours?
(edited for clarity)

MapleOakPine · 13/01/2026 18:22

It sounds like you could do 2 days in the office fairly easily (as your mum picks up DS on those days) - is that right? So I would request 2 days per week rather than 2 one week and 3 the next. They don't have to accept but you may as well try.

Beamur · 13/01/2026 18:22

Could you do longer hours when in the office? So you are doing it via hours rather than days?

RoeDeer86 · 13/01/2026 18:26

Thanks everyone. I work different hours each day to accommodate picking DS up, I think that already counts as flexible working? I will check the link out, thank you.

The job actually works perfectly at the moment and if it wasn’t for the extra day they’re asking for, it would be fine. When you work part time, it’s sadly not as simple as just finding a new job. The firms where I live aren’t as good and I could end up worse off. I’m used to commuting 1-2 days a week and it’s fine. It’s just the perfect storm of limited wrap around care and work wanting more. Stupid thing is, I actually get more done at home.

OP posts:
RandomMess · 13/01/2026 18:28

What do you do in the school holidays? If you can utilise 5 longer days then is it an option to work in the office during school holidays and effectively “bank”office days for WFH more term time?

socks1107 · 13/01/2026 18:30

I think a lot of work places are bringing people back in more office bias. I would put in a flexible working request and also start to look for something closer to home

newornotnew · 13/01/2026 18:33

ACAS offer free advice, they have a helpline, it would be worth calling them and explaining to them.

beasmithwentworth · 13/01/2026 18:33

I was in a similar position to you a few years ago. A few TAs from the school were always looking for a bit of extra cash and I had 2 over 3 separate years who took the DCs after school 2 days a week until I got home. It was in my home so I’d leave her to reheat dinner that I had left in the fridge.

It worked really well as they got to go home, they could have friends over etc and they were fed by the time I got home. It was also good as they both had someone looking out for them at school too. It didn’t cost much. I asked at reception and asked them to put the word out.

HellsBells13 · 13/01/2026 18:34

Have you looked at home working only companies like sense pronounced as saunsei

MsCactus · 13/01/2026 18:40

OP how good is your work at accomodating health/disability adjustments? I ask because my work always approves flexible working for health reasons. I'm pretty sure the legislation is that they have to accommodate these requests, but look it up. I have a chronic pain condition and despite the rule being X days in the office, I can do less because of my health condition.

Someone I know has a similar arrangement for IBS.

Lightingfail · 13/01/2026 18:51

On your office days you're doing a 3 hour round trip for a close to minimum wage job, and that's when your bus shows up on time. I know it's hard to find part time flexible work but I think you do need to look for something else.

LlynTegid · 13/01/2026 18:55

I agree with making a flexible working request.

It is now three or more years since the end of any Covid restrictions, and employers should have made decisions a long time ago. Hybrid working arrangements that have been in place for say over two years should be an implied contract term and not able to be changed at some senior manager's whim. Or because they haven't the guts to deal with the few poor performers who use hybrid working to skive.

Meadowfinch · 13/01/2026 19:14

Despite having a fully remote contract, my last boss decided we were all going back to 5 days a week in the office.

I found another job very easily. Sometimes it is the best thing to do. 😊

Flaked · 13/01/2026 19:16

It is now three or more years since the end of any Covid restrictions, and employers should have made decisions a long time ago

what about employees