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Anxiety about resigning and serving notice period

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Tranquilitybaby · 12/01/2026 00:38

I started a job in the Summer that I sadly I hate. It has completely screwed my mental health with how it busy it is and I feel like such a failure when I’ve always excelled in my work roles before. it’s all come as a bit of a shock but other colleagues I work very clearly think I should be as good as them at the job now, despite being theme just under six month, but frankly I just can’t keep up. I need to ask questions about unknown queries and I think they’re fed up with this as busy themselves. I can very strongly sense it by the way they behave or respond or if I do have to query something. It’s making me feel like such a burden and I want to walk away now as it’s just getting worse.

my boss is aware I may leave as we had a meeting the other week and I told her my worries and that I’m deeply unhappy. She doesn’t want me to leave she said, but did acknowledge that she felt I might resign although she doesn’t me to.

its making me feel so unwell, that I know I to need to hand my notice in next week, I simply can’t go on anymore like this. But the feeling of awkwardness and resentment they’re going to feel from being left to pick up the pieces as it were is giving me sleepless nights.

How do I manage to calm myself down and stop feeling like I’m in fight or flight mode?

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SnowflakeSmasher86 · 12/01/2026 01:24

The anxiety and discomfort of handing your notice will be temporary. If you don’t do it, those feelings will carry on indefinitely. If you get it out of the way sooner they can get on with looking for someone new while people are reassessing their lives for the new year, and will have lots of options, so doing it now would be helpful for them. You can do it, and move on to something that makes you feel good. Thanks

Allisgoodtoday · 12/01/2026 04:23

No job is worth so much worry and anxiety that it affects your mental wellbeing, this is something I've learned through my years at work. Your workplace will survive your leaving, it will only be a temporary blip to them....but you may not survive so well if you stay. Concentrate on writing your letter of resignation, reassure yourself this is for the best and calm yourself by thinking about the relief you will feel when you no longer have to attend this workplace. New Year, new horizons, look forward to making new plans for the future. Good luck with it!

SadSandwich · 12/01/2026 06:43

if you are still asking questions after 6-months and they are too busy for you it means that you weren’t given a proper induction and training plan and secondly haven’t got adequate on going mentorship in role. Thats a them problem not a you problem. Stop stressing about others and go do you.

Newyearsameme26 · 12/01/2026 07:01

Find your anger, op!! Fuck them!! They should have been more welcoming and understanding and accommodated you as a new starter. More fool them. Their work has now increased further due to their poor attitude towards you. My heart would not bleed for them. Let them have a good hardthink about how they will manage your replacement to avoid this scenario in the future. Yes, I am massively projecting as I'm in the same situation! Say it again: fuck them! 😁

Quitelikeit · 12/01/2026 07:04

Which type of role is this?

MrsDoubtingMyself · 12/01/2026 07:14

If you're still struggling in the role after 6 months, either the training is rubbish or you're not up to the job.

If you genuinely feel its you, then simply hand your notice in. If you're right, and they find you a dead weight, they'll be pleased to see you go. Therefore there will be no awkwardness

However, if its poor training, ask your LM for a refresher training course......maybe a couple of days.... and see if that helps

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