Being bullied at work

[Waterhorse46]

This sounds pathetic to even post. However, I know it’s happening. It’s just becoming exhausting and I can’t cope. I need work to pay for things as anyone else but mentally I’m breaking. I really want to involve my union but it’ll exacerbate things I worry. What do I do other than keep logging incidents that are happening. How can I prove I’m being bullied. The reason I feel this way is that meetings are taking place without me and then I’m being forced to manage my department with a structure I haven’t even created. I’m being forced to meet multiple deadlines per week. I’ve been dismissed whenever I’ve raised concerns about other toxic staff.

How can I prove I’m being bullied. This may sound benign but I promise. It’s not.

This sounds awful. Has it always been like this or has something changed recently to trigger the bullying ie new line manager?
I would firstly have a 121 with your manager focusing on all issues and asking for solutions. Follow this up in writing with an agreed timeframe for them to review options and discuss ie one week. Review your job role in this meeting and voice any suggestions you have ie can you use a deputy to assist with workload. Avoid the word bullying at this time. Explain your workload is untenable and you will be discussing your mental health with your GP and if you have one EAP.

if nothing changes to support you raise a HR case

The plan is to find something else and raise a grievance. I have been collating my evidence and logging all conversations.

This is absolutely the best thing to do, it will also ensure that your references will be HR vetted.

I was bullied at work a few years ago, it broke me and absolutely destroyed my confidence. I had evidence, I reported it, went through grievances. Nothing happened. I left. I left for my mental health and I have never looked back. It's just not worth it.

I had items taken and trashed from my desk, I had my lunch binned, I would boil the kettle to make a cuppa and they would replace the hot water with cold so when I poured it, I would have to make another one. I was frequently screamed at, locked out of the building if I went for break and then tried to return (I would then get a bollocking for being late back) They had group lunches (No canteen just an office space) and refused to include or speak to me, it was endless.